(((Hugs))) Silverlining. So sorry to hear about this.
I'm going to join in with others who say dh needs to try another counselor - or 2 or 3 - before he gives up on counseling. Before that, though, he also needs a complete physical to rule out any physical causes.
"His personality has changed. He is not the person I married 12 years ago and we relate to each other very differently now. I miss the man I married. Occassionally the 'old' husband reappears and I know how much I love him again. We manage but I think we are both lonely in different ways and both sad for each other"
If he absolutely refuses to seek further help or if it doesn't work out, perhaps a trial separation is in order? My words may sting, but maybe you would both be happier on your own or with someone else? Forgiven me if it hurts to hear that. I'm just thinking of your happiness - and his.
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My four year old grandson "doesn't want me"