How much should we tell them of health issues

Excuse me, Crazygrandma? Your ac complained about your not giving them a chance to support you and dh? New flash (for them, not you)! Their dad's illness is not about them and their needs. It's up to the sick person to decide who to tell what and when about their illness. You ac need to respect dh's choices and nvm about their own wishes.

I was parked on level 3, janea and didn't realise I could drive my car to customer services so I walked!! DH stayed in the car which was a Good Idea. His 'mutterings' about the cost of parking and design of the walkways more than likely got on my nerves distracted me enough to make me forget to collect the ticket.

However.....Some tips should it ever happen to anyone else:

Remember you car registration and where you parked it, which machine you used, how much you paid and exactly what you put in the machine.

Apparently you have 30 seconds to remove your ticket before it gets swallowed up again. This is to prevent somebody else grabbing it.

Serves me right for telling DH to stop complaining because we'd actually had a stress free experience!

My mother always talks "at" me about whatever is on her mind when she phones. She is always in pain but when it was dire pain that was the topic. Now it is lived with pain, she will spend the call talking about her new tv purchase or whatever. What I learn from this is that with increasing age we must get pre-occupied with things which blow themselves out of proportion in our own minds. We are probably going to bore family members rigid with whatever that is, whether health related or getting the gas boiler serviced, so they may as well get used to it.

Sorry - haven't read all 4 pages of the thread - lunch break is drawing to a close. I think it is important that you tell your children as much as you can so that they are aware that they might inherit it, and can take preventative measures or benefit from developments in research which will hopefully emerge in their lifetimes.

I've thought a lot about this, as I am a Person with Parkinson's. I was diagnosed 5 years ago and am tolerating medication well. I do Nordic Walking, non-contact boxing, Irish set dancing, gym classes etc. and so am pretty fit for a 64 year old. HOWEVER, Parkinson's is a degenerative condition and I know I will become less able as the condition progresses. Rather than try to tell my grandson, who is now 4 and a half years old and still enjoys all the things I do, like swimming, fast walking, cycling, visits to the funfair, I wrote some stories about a Granny with Parkinson's. Stories tell the child about someone else, not about you, but they still raise the issue. I've worn my "I have PD. Please give me time" wristband, and my PD T shirt and grandson has seen my PD friends and me Nordic walking, most more afflicted than I am, but so far hasn't asked any questions. I'm sure he will, very soon, and because I'm up-front about it, there won't be any fear or embarrassment surrounding it, I hope. Open the box when they are ready, I say. A bit like sex education. Too much too soon won't mean anything. But silence creates fear and confusion, in my experience. Good luck, you all.

There was an article about this in this week's Sunday Times. Someone had found out by accident that her father had a serious health condition but hadn't told anyone. Should she tell the rest of the family?
Quite a dilemma, and she was advised to speak to her father first, then tell the others.

I alwys used to keep things from the family if possible, but since my triple heart bypass 18 momths ago and now the increasing trouble with my osteoporosis they insist on being kept in the loop. They even insist on comimg to hospital appointments with me, unless it is for a simple test, as it seems they don't trust me to ask the right questions or tell them what has been said. ?