Well, my mother's funeral is on Thursday, just spoken to DS1 again re music etc (he asked for my input, tried to get hold of him several times, when I eventually did he told me he had sorted the dirgeshymns. Ditto with the eulogy, even though he asked me to write down some of the stuff that I had told him over the phone and send it to him, which I did. Apparently, he decided to just go ahead with what he had written, and has sent that to the vicar.
I'm quite upset about that, as although my mother and I were estranged (her choice) I was always proud of her for the way as an unmarried mother in 1958 she decided to keep me, despite many obstacles.
There are other things that he didn't know that might have been good to include at the service, for example before I was even a twinkle, she was a beauty queen, winning the title of "Miss Malvern Town"! I had the press cuttings and the sash.
But the thing that made me use the thread title, is that tonight DS1 told me that she has left me nothing in her will, but has left a letter telling me why.
Now, I wasn't expecting anything, under the circumstances, although DS1 has said he doesn't mind if I have "a couple of bits" but I think the letter aspect IS cowardly and cruel.
Why not send it when she was alive, so that any misunderstandings could have been addressed?
My son says he has read it, which in a way is a damn cheek, but didn't say anything about the content, although I can have a pretty good guess.
I think it is a rather nasty thing to do.
Bought the wrong Hot Cross Buns 😩
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