Arriving unannounced

Not rampant day-time sex then?

yogagirl that's your theory shot out of the water....although there are still others who might just???

... but that involves a visitor

I drive my mother batty as I don't care for guests period. Either announced or unannounced. Hubby loves guests and is all for "the more the merrier" Both my mother and my hubby hate that I won't give anyone who doesn't currently live in my home a key. And if I haven't invited someone to visit, I don't even answer the door.

My DD and DGS are staying with us while my DSIL is deployed and DD loves guests just like her dad. So I just disappear when she has people over

How sad that you are so different.Has there not been any compromise over the years?I used to be like you but DH invites all and sundry round and I find I have got quite used to it and really enjoy it now.If you can't beat them ......

Greenfinch

I am just very very introverted. People exhaust me. We have come up with some compromises and solutions over the years and I still somewhat have to deal with lots of people because in addition to DD and DGS, I have 3 other young children at home still and they have friends and activities so there are always people in and out of the house. I just have learned to deal and hide in my room when I need to recharge

I can empathise with you slightyflighty and you have obviously found a solution that works for you.I thought at first you were unhappy about the situation but maybe you have learnt to cope. Best wishes.

I think we are all very different and that makes life a lot more interesting. I can really enjoy visitors but give sigh of relief when they go because I need a lot of time on my own

Vive la difference!

My mum never lets me know she's coming round or checks if it's OK. It is frequently & usually for several hours. And it causes me much stress at times.
In turn I would never dream of doing such a thing before visiting my daughters. They have their own lives & I think it's wrong to just turn up at 'my convenience' so I always plan ahead & make arrangements.

Sorry for the delay in responding. My friends Husband died and I wanted to be with her.
My DM was the eldest of 11, I am the youngest of 6 children. We all grew up going in and out of each other's houses and all received a warm welcome. I also understand that not everyone is the same and I wouldn't dream of arriving unannounced anywhere. I was raised with good manners.
I have always text our DD to see if it was ok to call in. This one incident, we had arranged on the phone that the next time I was passing I would drop some gifts off at her house which family memembers had left with me.
I arrived with the gifts which was a problem for our sil and that's fine. I was shocked at the way I was spoken to......Do not arrive unannounced because I will have to accommodate you. Snotty, rude and aloof. Something had changed drastically because what I would have expected would have been , hey mum just give us a quick text before you call......
We are still estranged because she wants it that way. All stems from MIL because she has always felt and cried that she would lose her son once he took a wife, our DD.
I am so sorry for all of you who are estranged from you DC. It's not right, life is too short. Wishing you all well x
One thing I would like to point out is when we are texting or emailing our families you can see from the threads on hear how easy it is for people to read something out of nothing or "assume".....without facial expression things can quickly be misconstrued. Worth thinking about!

You arrived without prior notice, D is unhappy. I think she may have a point, apologise to D and SIL.

The reason I don't like unexpected callers is that im afraid ill be judged for a less than tidy house and a less than tidy me!

I can call on my mum any time. I didn't grow up in a house with visitors, but she likes to have the people she likes around for a chat.

When I lived at home my dad (after visiting the local hostelry} would often invite anyone who was sat around on their own we often had a complete stanger sat at our Christmas dinner table lol///Dad used to feel sorry for them ..!my mum of course would feed them and then "encourage " them to leave....my dad would them slope off to bed to avoid the aftermath lol...we often laugh about it now, it was usually some oldish chap on his own so don't think mum minded too much..

What a lovely dad you have Bikergran God Bless him. For your dear dad