I love him, BUT

Oh Mrs Mopp, I have Wurzel here too! He wears odd wellies, not even the same brand & colour, to his jobs as a gardener! It's so shaming & I swear he does it on purpose to annoy me. He hasn't had his hair cut since February & looks worse than Chris off Eggheads! I will have to tie him to a chair & get the clippers out as we're going away next week. And yes, he hogs the remote & switches over just when something exciting is about to happen & he clips his fingernails into the kitchen sink...

I wonder what our husbands would like to say about us!

Mine annoys me when watching films : he'll say ' you cAn see that rain is just artifical ; the sun is shining behind it or when watching a tv drama 'that sequence was filmed ; you can tell because the car wheels are turning backwards'

Oh good grief - where to begin

1. he is very good at loading and unloading the dishwasher. BUT, when he empties it, any plastic tubs (used for saving leftovers or freezing stuff) he just puts them in the draining rack above the dishwasher. WHY oh WHY can't he put them in the proper cupboard for them?

2. Takes his shoes/boots/slippers off and just leaves them in the middle of the room. He has to walk PAST the shoe cabinet when he goes out, so could easily put them away. But no. Off the feet and left on the floor. I warned him I would be disposing of them if he couldn't put them away. He carried on. He still hasn't found his slippers - but he does put his shoes away now. For the time being, anyway.

3. Puts a milk bottle back in the fridge with the teeniest tiniest dribble of milk left in it. Not QUITE empty, but not enough left in the bottle to be useful.

4. NEVER EVER EVER pushes his chair back under the table when we finish eating. No matter where we are - home, mother in law's house, restaurant.

5. Insists on asking me if he's "allowed" to buy something. Oh my days WHY??? I would never tell him he's not "allowed". I'm not the banker!!

All the above said, he's a good man, and we are coming up to our 32nd wedding anniversary, so I guess we rub along ok, minor irritations excepted

I am not sure I would like to see his list of "I love her, but . . . "

I love him but he's a heavy smoker and the house stinks despite my best efforts.

Yes, they are all good men, which is why we still love them (after 50 years in my case) so none of these are harsh criticisms but meant affectionately and with humour and tolerance. Dear God, we shall desperately miss them when they have gone.
I have no idea how to even work the remote....

I have control of the remote in our house. He says he has no interest in tv, but he watches what I put on. He never quite finishes a job. Last night he cleaned the kitchen worktops but fired the cloth towards the laundry basket. Wouldn't dream of putting it in the basket. Leaves banana skins on the table, cleaned the bathroom window with my face cloth, wipes his finger through a dusty surface, but will not dust it! You get the picture, but he's mine and I love him.

Its the control here, the same as many sufferers control in hand and asleep, MUST see this programme, asleep?!When woken "on no I wasnt asleep" getting my camera ready for next time!
Other things to irritate, well there isnt enough space to itemise them!

Sorry Chewbacca I laughed out loud at yours but totally sympathise! Mine: moaning about everyone on BGT to try to stop me watching it. Leaving his hat/cap everywhere - and his teeth. Asking where we've seen the actor before in a thrilling drama, and when I try to ignore it, will then try to guess aloud. Taking the wrong lane EVERY time on roundabouts - surely by the law of averages, he should get it right once.

My DH, on being asked why he was reorganising the kitchen cupboards, fridge etc, replied that he wasn't, he was ORGANISING them. I too just let him get on with it; he does have some good ideas! Smile

I am here again, my control freak DH in more ways than one, watches TV every evening from 6pm until around 10 pm, never asks what I would like to see,so I have just solved the problem by buying the rights to direct streaming from the UK onto my computer, now I can see all the lovely British TV programmes, when I want to, he can watch his Swedish rubbish, and sleep if he wants to! Its worth every penny.

Mrs Mopp and others - I got over the remote control issue by buying a 2nd one. We have one each now. If he comes in and switches my programme over so he can see the football scores etc., I can turn it back to my station as soon as he has seen his team.
My pet hate - he follows me around switching off the TV or the light if I am out of a room for a few minutes at the loo or answering the phone.

My DH does all of the above! And after nearly 43 years I still haven't given up hope!

Each time I think like this I try to reverse the thought into what were my 'buts' in his mind. Chastening indeed! Never a one way street even though we ladies are pretty much perfect.

He puts his shoes on when he gets dressed in the morning and refuses to remove them again until he gets undressed in the evening. I hate it that the grandchildren are crawling about on dirty floors no matter how many times they've been cleaned. He seems to think showing your socks is unmanly.

Refuses to acknowlwedge that things have a 'place', he just randomly puts everything into the nearest cupboard and I spend ages every day searching for things before I can do anything.

Wears shoes that look like school boy lace ups. They're awful, especially as he has quite big feet. Nothing he wears can look good over these great clumpy shoes.

He also seems to think I have one or two faults as well so he is obviously deluded!

The remote is a 'man thing'.
... he tidies up my things then can't remember where he put them...

Oh gosh - are we all married to the same man? Or do they just morph at a certain age? Clothes - don't speak to me - has no idea how to co-ordinate, will wear three or four clashing blues together "They are all blue, of course they go together" drives me mad, didn't matter so much when he was young and slim(ish!)but now he is a bit larger makes it worse somehow! And newspapers on the floor! We have two papers Sat and Sun and as he finishes each section he flings it on the floor beside the coffee table....grr - so by the end of the weekend we have a mountain of paper there, wouldn't be so bad if he then took them straight to the recycling bin, but no, they are piled up by the front door until he next goes out that way!

Where to start? He hates throwing things away - anything that 'might become useful' which means the garage, the attic and even parts of the garden would be attractive to the Steptoes. He also wears clothes until there is a 'do' he has to attend - and then panic sets in. But we've been together 47 years and he ain't going to change and he IS a lovely, kind man and I'm very lucky.

Longdistancegrnny Oh gosh - are we all married to the same man?


we even have other people's 'stuff' in our garage that he is kindly 'minding' and he collects 'stuff' that 'may come in useful one day'.

Oh I get the newspaper thing as well. No papers during the week because you can see the news on TV. Then he goes out on Saturday and brings in a shed load heavies complete with all the supplemts, magazines etc. Can't chuck them out till he's done all the crosswords which can take a week. Can't chuck them out because he hasn't read them all yet.
I'd be interested if the male gransnetters could start a similar thread about things we do that irritate them? Oh, silly me, they wouldn't be able to think of anything.
Would they??

My OH completely fills the kettle .. just for two cups of tea, then at other times is anxiously checking the energy monitor. He makes comments about people .. usually before they are out of hearing range. But he's a lovely man, and when I think about my ex (horrible man)I thank my lucky stars!!!

On another note, not really connected with the post.
We are of a generation that waited on Men as though they were some sort of deity. My children don't have the same ' waiting on hand and foot ' approach that we have had.
My sons in laws don't get food on the table as soon as they come in from work ( long hours and commuting in high powered demanding jobs) and neither do my sons. Looking after children and going to work are level pegging. If they throw clothes on the floor, then they stay there. They cook, clean, wash and iron and do outside jobs as well. I don't actually think my Dds work as hard as the boys.
I must say I viewed the modern marriage with surprise at first, but now I am used to it.
I do have to bite my tongue at half six in the morning , whilst one of the SIL is up at 6 to go to London (45 mins train journey) and he gets the ironing board out. Plus he is feeding a child and trying to get him dressed for school. ( grannies does it while I am there)
I slaved away with a full time job, lots of children, aupairs to sort, etc. I nearly killed myself being a working Mum but at the same time, also trying to be the Mother my Mother was, who was a SAHM.

My best beloved used to be a TV lighting director; thus every programme we watch together has a running commentary on how it should have been lit, what the director/producer has done wrong and, as we sit through an enormous long list of credits, comments on whether he knew any of the people and whether they were any good.

A very minor thing, I know, and he is a complete and absolute darling who is the light of my life.

Kim19 Sat 13-May-17 10:33:40 I agree, yes mine has idiosyncrasies, but I know have my share! The percentages of annoying behaviours slides from him to me, so it's never 50-50. I just try to go with the flow and I think he does, too. We have never had a big row. Disagreements, yes, rows are a waste of life. (My mother was a control freak and his late wife sadly was alcoholic)

We are married 25 years this year. I didn't think I'd find love at 43 when we married after a whirlwind romance. He proposed after a week as we met when I was travelling in the UK.

Remember the song by Orleans?

"Still The One"

We've been together since way back when
Sometimes I never want to see you again
But I want you to know
After all these years
You're still the one
I want whisperin' in my ear

You're still the one
I want to talk to in bed
Still the one
That turns my head
We're still having fun
And you're still the one

You're still the one
That makes me laugh
Still the one
That's my better half
We're still having fun
And you're still the one
You're still the one
That makes me strong
Still the one
I want to take along
We're still having fun
And you're still the one (yes you are)

[Musical Interlude]
Changing, our love is going gold
Even though we grow old, it grows new

You're still the one
That I love to touch
Still the one
And I can't get enough
We're still having fun
And you're still the one

You're still the one
Who can scratch my itch
Still the one
And I wouldn't switch
We're still having fun
And you're still the one

You are still the one
That makes me shout
Still the one
That I dream about
We're still having fun
And you're still the one

You're still the one
Yeah, still the one
We're still having fun
And you're still the one

mrsmopp, how do you know my DH ?!!!