I love him, BUT

Deeana1...I laughed out loud at yours!

All of these things remind me why being single is the best thing for me ?

Just thought I would redress the balance a little. My husband drives me mad sometimes but he is - kind, tolerant.puts up with my irritable moods, generous and is always there to help friends when needed. He is a good cook too.

Well, Christinefrance, the title of the thread is I love him But, so in every post it's clear that we all love our DHs. I'm amazed the number of times we all have the same 'buts' and the TV remote is a classic example.
Nobody has posted anything nasty or spiteful; and our love for these men has never been in doubt.

We are of a generation that waited on Men as though they were some sort of deity. Goodness, I've never done that

My sons in laws don't get food on the table as soon as they come in from work. Neither did my DH! We both worked full time and shared tasks equally - I was just as likely to get in from work to find my DH preparing dinner for the family.

And no, we're not 'young' grans - I'm late 60s and DH is early 70s. The way of life you describe, janeayressister is more reminiscent of my parents' lifestyle than ours.

Indinana, scrolled back to find the origins of your quote. I read janeayressister's description of her DC's 'modern' marriage. It exactly describes mine, married 1968 and my parents (married 1942). The idea of waiting on men as though they were some sort of deity never entered either mine or DM's minds. We both had/have marriages of equals and my DF was a good short order cook and quite prepared to push prams, change nappies and hoover when necessary.

Like my children, I worked and had a professional career as well as my husband. My DM worked, but DF was in the forces so we moved a lot, so, admittedly, she had little chance to build a career.

Ah well, now my DM did wait on my DF, but then she never went out to work after they married, so she considered running around after him and the children her role.
My PiL, on the other hand, both worked and they shared household chores equally, just as we did.
My DH had an aunt and uncle who we stayed with on holiday many many years ago (they lived in a beautiful coastal town). In the mornings, Uncle would sit at the kitchen table having breakfast while Aunt fussed about, washing up, tidying etc. When he wanted a refill of his breakfast cup (the teapot and milk jug were inches away from his cup on the table) he would push his cup towards his DW and say "another cup please dear". She would then pick up the tea-towel, dry her hands and walk over to pour it out for him . Oh well, I suppose at least he did say please and call her 'dear'....

I love him but he puts his hesd in the sand and ignores any probelns hoping they will go away on there own.
And he never puts anything away after he has use of it .He never tidez uo after himself .If he is about to start decorating he never prepares the roon properly

Campire queen all i can aay is yoy must be newly married then

We've been married for 5 years.

He's untidy but won't admit it but instead gets defensive, leaves drawers open all over the house, starts jobs he doesn't finish and walks away leaving me to clear up, is terrible at DIY, is sadly vulnerable and ultra modest and will never tell people the wonderful things he has done in his life, he is silent in groups leaving me to do all the socializing, he never buys himself anything or me, he would live happily in the middle of the field in a t-shirt and old clothes, existing on marmite sandwiches and tea! Talk about non materialistic .

But, he is tolerant, kind, supportive, his loves his daughters to bits and me and he has a heart of gold (he puts up with me apart from anything else!).

Yes i thought so wait untill its 35 ha ha

I've been married 35 years.

Why the hell can't he put his clothes for washing in the basket !!

He leaves them on the floor (including the odd item that he intends to wear again, such as jeans) then moans because they are covered in cat hair! Grrrrr.