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I love him, BUT

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mrsmopp Fri 12-May-17 11:16:14

I love him BUT he always takes control of the remote when we're watching TV. Does he think I'm incapable of changing channels?
I love him BUT whenever we go out he wears the same fleece jacket he's had since the year dot. Never wears his smart things. The fleece is 'comfy'.

Any more?
What's the thing that irritates you about DH?

annifrance Sat 13-May-17 12:03:21

He cooks a wonderful roast, but uses 9 saucepans for just the two of us and leaves the kitchen smeared in grease. then says I cooked so you clear up!

Leaves the last few pieces of loo paper on the roll and starts a new one. I've given up on a loo roll holder as I am the only one that will put a new one on. My son was the same when he lived at home.

Leaves the extending magnifying mirror in the bathroom at an angle that when I get there the light above reflects in it and blinds me!

Does wonderful DIY but never finishes a job.

On the subject of an expert watching television, my DD's DFiL is an anaesthetist in a hospital that specialises in maxio facial trauma, but does some cosmetic surgery. He gives a running commentary during Strictly as to who has had what cosmetic surgery done!

Rosina Sat 13-May-17 12:09:15

OH leaves tops off toothpaste, clothes on the floor, rejigs the the dishwasher, scatters mail about and NEVER throws flyers etc. in the bin, always dumps them on the hall table. We have a dressing room that looks as if we have been burgled due to drawers half open with clothes hanging out, and he never, ever hangs anything up without creasing both that garment and several others in the cupboard. Light trousers are worn to mow the lawn, and have grass stains galore, good jumpers are worn for gardening and then there is total dismay and amazement displayed at snags and holes from the rose bushes. Arbitrary decisions get made without consultation, which in the past have caused horrendous disastrous events. I had better stop here; we get on relatively well but if I re read this too often I may head for a divorce solicitor.

Madgran77 Sat 13-May-17 12:10:17

Reorganising the dishwasher; reorganising the shopping trolley (!); washing up ongoing utensils whilst I'm cooking .....these are just a few but do I care? No ...because I could also list .....helping me with my art projects (exhibitions etc); making me laugh; finding lovely places to stay; looking after me when I'm ill...and more! smile

KayR Sat 13-May-17 12:11:36

I love him dearly but......oh dear I don't have the time and you don't have the space to list my grumbles! I should accept it (he accepts my faults) but I would be bored if I had nothing to grumble about! He takes it all with a pinch of salt...which is soooo annoying.,.. smile

missdeke Sat 13-May-17 12:14:49

I live alone now after 2 divorces and one long term relationship but although I would like the company of a man for dinner, cinema etc I would not give up control of my remote for any man. grin

Legs55 Sat 13-May-17 12:15:18

With my late DH it was definitely clothes, lived in joggers & sweatshirts in the winter even at work (in a warehouse), shorts & short sleeved shirt in summer. When we were going away I would ask him to get all his clothes out & put them on the bed in the spare room. Why did all his really good t-shirts stay in the drawer & older ones ready for holiday?? I had to make him try on shirts, trousers & jacket to make sure he could fit into them, only time I didn't he took black trousers which when he came to put the on which he couldn't fasten, quick trip to shopshmm

I always made him pack his own shoes, once went away with 2 left feet, black shoes very similarconfused

He was also a hoarder, anything - tools, clothes, "might come in useful"grin

He was also a nightmare as a passenger when I was driving, I used to threaten to stop the car & he could walk.

He was the kindest, most generous man who I had the pleasure of loving for 23 yearssmile

tidyskatemum Sat 13-May-17 12:26:57

Mine is just like yours, BBbevan and Suki70 - drawers and cupboard door open all over the place - AND he always leaves lights on. The number of times I find the garage light has been on all night......

maddyone Sat 13-May-17 12:32:17

What happens to men as they get older? Do they all turn into Victor Meldrew? Mine is all of the above plus much more, including can never, ever be wrong about anything! All the world is wrong unless it conforms to how my DH says it should be! It's hard at times living with someone who is always right about everything!

Sheilasue Sat 13-May-17 12:50:40

My h has a pair of cordorie (is that how you spell it) that he will wear all week if I let him, they go all baggy and shapeless and look awful. His dress sense is pretty bad. Won't listen to me when I try to advise him about clothes and my d gets so annoyed with him.

Clarecrip1 Sat 13-May-17 12:51:38

Mine has barely mastered the use of remote controls! I generally have control just because I can make the system work, we do discuss and agree about what we are going to watch. If there's something one wants to watch and the other doesn't, either we'll just do different things, or if there's something else on we want to watch, the one will get recorded to be watched at a convenient time later.
We both enjoy being smartly dressed when appropriate, so there's no conflict there either. Probably explains why we are approaching our 37th Wedding Anniversary feeling more in love than ever!

marionk Sat 13-May-17 13:27:35

For me it's those irritating plastic packets of magazines and ads you get in the weekend papers, DH rips them open and drops a thumb size piece of clear plastic which he can't see because once again he is not wearing his glasses!

SusieB50 Sat 13-May-17 14:40:15

DH smokes a pipe constantly and leaves trails of tobacco on the floor where it has dropped onto his clothes when filling it . Also those awful ashtrays Uggh .As for the remote it's always on his side ready to turn the NEWS on AGAIN !!

Wendy4 Sat 13-May-17 14:52:22

Same here with the remote, also turns the tv up too loud even though he has a hearing aid (which he says he doesn't really need). Also loading the cutlery wrong way up in the dishwasher (of course his way is right!). After making toast or a sandwich leaves the buttery, or jammy, knife on the breadboard, aaarrgh. Otherwise he's not too bad!

SallyDapp Sat 13-May-17 15:52:47

The one that drives me bonkers is opening the mail and putting it back in the envelopes before handing it to me. He doesn't even sort out the rubbish.

maddy629 Sat 13-May-17 16:22:53

He puts football, which I hate, and then falls asleep. Never rolls dirty socks together and then complains when I can only find one to wash. However I broke my wrist a couple of weeks ago and he has looked after me really well. I am on a diet and he is being really supportive, so nuff said, I think.

trendygran Sat 13-May-17 16:29:07

Used to have the same problem . Better than him not being there at all - lost my DH 8 and a half years ago. It IS very very annoying though!

Kim19 Sat 13-May-17 16:43:35

LewLew......... Terrific. Thank you.

bionicwoman Sat 13-May-17 17:31:11

Perhaps it's because we don't live together (never have, probably never will) even after seven years of marriage (fourteen years together) I can't think of anything he does which annoys me...
Oh yes, he used to try to tell me where to park in the car park. We settled that by having the rule that whoever was driving chose the parking space with no comment from the other unless there was a really good reason.
We seldom watch TV together - if we do it's at my house as he hasn't got one! - but the remote is mine if we do; I pack the dishwasher - again he hasn't got one; otherwise we just rub along.
He has several endearing habits though for which I love him all the more!

Deeana1 Sat 13-May-17 18:21:43

One thing that drives me insane about my DH is that if he's in the kitchen which is next door to the livingroom, and I call him to say something, he comes out of the kitchen and stands in the hall, he won't come into the livingroom to hear what I have to say, he'll just stand in the hall between the 2 rooms, so I find myself talking to him through a door.. weird!

mrsmopp Sat 13-May-17 18:33:34

He wants a coffee. Just one cup.
So why oh why does he fill the kettle to the brim??
Just habit, is the explanation. Grrrrrrrr

SunnySusie Sat 13-May-17 18:34:43

Mine wont stop tidying up. If I leave the paper with my half done crossword on the table its in the recycling in a nano-second. Pop an empty packet on the hall table to remind me to buy something and its in the bin. Leave half a cup of tea to have later and its tipped away and the cup is in the dishwasher. Put some clothes out to remind me to iron them and they are back in the drawers in a minute. Extends to putting the gardening tools back in the shed when I just got them out to start work! Grrrr.

PRINTMISS Sat 13-May-17 20:22:38

Wonder what the o.hs would say about us?

NfkDumpling Sat 13-May-17 21:30:01

They would say we're wonderful, understanding partners and they don't deserve such paragons of beauty and grace.

GrannyLondon Sat 13-May-17 22:16:53

I think we are all so annoying that we shouldn't live together at all.
We should live in cells & meet now & again for lunch & sex!

moobox Sat 13-May-17 22:19:28

Discards the foils or corks from wine bottles in any receptacle lying around e.g. vases; goes out in a short sleeved shirt and padded jerkin in winter and thinks he looks normal; and he just gave me a small knife with a large fork, the imbalance of which spoiled my meal