Niece spotted with someone else

Please don't say a word to anyone.

I agree that you should say nothing; too easy to make mountains of molehills, could be a mistake, and if she's having second thoughts, better to find out now rather than later.

Say nothing.....the fallout always rebounds on the one who said something, particularly if you don't know the full story.

Many years ago an old school friend said he was coming to this area to do a job, he asked could we meet for lunch, hubby also invited, but as it was a working day he couldn't make it, he said you go, I asked was he sure, he said of course, I went, when I met the friend he gave me a big hug & we sat down to lunch, chatting non-stop quite sitting close to each other as the place was busy & noisy, someone there saw us & reported to my hubby that I was with another man, he laughed at them knowing full well what had gone on, I had even told him what we were talking about, he knew there was nothing in it, BUT if I hadn't said anything, just gone along for the lunch this lady could have caused huge problems for something completely innocent.

Question: Does your niece know this 'close family member' well, i.e. would she have recognised her as such when they came face to face? If yes, then she must suspect that this encounter may have been reported back and presumably she is prepared to brazen it out. Even if you did force things to come to a head she could always deny it, causing a great deal of embarrassment to you, not to say resentment within the family. If it had been you who saw her holding hands with the other man then perhaps it would be a different story, but as it is - let well alone.

When I was in my twenties, my dad took me out for lunch near where he worked. Someone he knew 'spotted' us and thought I was his bit on the side! It gave us a good laugh

Years ago, I met my husband in town and we went for lunch near his office. Someone spotted us together and went back to the office, telling everyone the boss was having an affair with a glamorous redhead.

Absolutely stay out of it. Its not your business hun. Also unless you have seen it for yourself you don't rely on gossip as fact. You won't be thanks for sticking your two pennorth in and causing trouble.

I like the "glamorous"!!
I trust it wasn't many years ago?

Maw Broon It was a long time ago, when I was slim, elegant, no elastic waists trousers and no grey hairs! Oh those were the days!