Feeling used by son and his partner who live with us

jimmy I suggest you seek advice, as soon as you can. I'm not sure where you live but the CAB is a good starting point or ask a local solicitor if this type of issue qualifies for a free initial meeting. Check your home insurance, we have legal cover included which would cover this situation. These are threats which sadly could be founded in fact. Please do take this seriously, you need to protect yourselves. Try to keep calm with your son and his partner but seek some informed advice asap. Wishing you well. Please let us know how this works out.

If your son and gf are acting in this bullying way, don't try to get anywhere with it until you have checked out your legal position.
Then you'll know the best way to approach it.

While I loathe to agree with you idiot son you need to seek legal advice asap.
As if they have been paying rent you Amy have to formally give them notice.
I'm not sure I'm not an expert.
I think you'd have to give them 3 months notice.
But I would defiantly Tell them that that is what you plan to do.
I'm sorry you've been taken advantage of like this.

It says online that they will count as lodgers not tenants. You can ask them to move out with 28 days notice. They don't have any right to stay. I typed in "lodgers rights". What a horrible situation, but at least you have no illusions now about how they regard you and don't have to feel bad about getting them out.

Wow. So they weren't being honest when they said they would move out when you asked. And, in fact, they intend to give you a hard time about it.

While I'm glad to hear that they've been paying rent, well, idk, but I don't think it means they are entitled to stay there forever. Landlords do evict people, and not just for failure to pay rent. And you have a right to sell your home. When you do, what do they expect? Do they think the new owners will be willing to "inherit" them?

Unfortunately, I agree with pps, you need to seek legal counsel. You may also have to take legal steps to get them out. Sorry to say, it will probably cause a rift between you for a while - maybe even a long while. But if it's the only way you and dh can get your life back, then the risk is worth it, imo.

Hope you're ok, Jimmy?
And that last nights conversation had a satisfactory conclusion.

Yes, what did hubby say? Did you and he come to any decisions about what to do?

JimmyRFU this looks like it's not going to end well. If they are paying rent then they would have a rent book and a tenancy agreement. I'm assuming no such arrangement exists. Then it's simply a case of an adult child living at home and giving their parents some money as a goodwill gesture toward their keep. I'd be instructing an estate agent and telling your son and his girlfriend the house is going on the market on x date. Yes you may loose a little as one room needs a revamp but surely it would be worth taking this hit to get the house sold and to move into a smaller house on your own. Your son can't exactly force you to not sell the house.

How is this going Jimmy?

IMP they are not paying rent - they are paying dig money as the son of the household. They have no rights, and at 27 you have no responsibilities towards him.

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