You are right trendygran and I know many other single children would have loved to have a sibling. Unfortunately it doesn't always work. In my case, I have one older sister, we rubbed along as children, playing together on holidays but she always preferred her friends to me. No problem, and finally when we both married and had children we became much closer, even though we lived 240 miles apart by then. Then she suddenly cut the while family off without explanation, that is every single family member, my parents, my own family, my aunts, uncles, cousins everyone. I grieved the loss of my sister and niece and nephews for three years but eventually I got over it and accepted that I had no siblings to all intents and purposes. After eight years she decided we should 'be a family again' and we painstakingly built up a relationship again. When her husband died six years ago she was devastated and I did my best to support her by regular trips up to see her and bringing her down to us, going on short breaks with her, and even going on three cruises with her, leaving my long suffering DH to his own devices. I texted almost every day because she wanted me to (she won't speak on the phone, or email)and if I missed a couple of days she wasn't happy. Anyway, to cut a long story short, she's now done it again, just my mother and me this time, and this time we know why, it's because we didn't do as she wanted us to regarding visiting her whilst I was up visiting Mum, who lives about 20/25 miles from sister. Mum is 89 and we'd gone up to see Dad's memorial on the only day in the year it's open (book of rememberance.) I've just thought, well what the heck, I can't be bothered with this again, I'd rather have a relationship with her, but I can't keep dancing to her tune, but I do feel very sorry for my DM.