Support for Grans cut-out of AC&GC lives

Astonished by the amount of personal info on here. Do all be careful! Support from Gnetters is great but anyone else can read this too. Including the lazy Mail.

It's so sad when people especially families fall out. There's so much hurt and anger and nobody wins.

Lazymail appreciate your concern but none of us have anything to hide and we try and not to mention names.

Yes it's sad and heartbreaking when your own child rejects you hard to imagine a winner In that situation.

Had both knees treated so off for rest now!

Our dear son and his partner have invited us for Xmas again somthat really made our day they know how hard will be first one without Rosie !??

Oh lucklegs hope dentist goes well and dr too,

Dr was v efficient I have fluid in ear, inhale, new nasal spray stop putting drops in not infected mayntake few weeks.

Felt had be pretty quick she was abrupt but efficient said try one tablet instead of 2 for foot nerve pain in case affecting tummy.

Felt worried asking 3 different things after previous dr. My own lovely gp is so kind that been spoilt trying get appt with her goldust, last winter before my op she made my appts herself, and visited twice after my operation but seems like my luck run out now!

I can't complain she been marvellous

maddyone how wonderful you got to see them all including the new born.

celeb glad both knees done and you are recovering more each week..

Oh Celeb; I'm so very, very sorry about little Rosie. It's such a difficult decision to make but at least we can do that final act of kindness for our animals and end their suffering. Just wish I'd come on line earlier and then I'd have known how poorly she was. for you dear friend and Mr. C. too.

Hope you're feeling better Luckylegs and went to the dentist, or was it the doctor, or was it both. SorryI can't remember now.

Well the last 3 days have been like a mini hurricane with our dear little God son whose almost 1 and his two brothers. We'd forgotten just how much work they are when their little. Their mum and dad simply can't comprehend our ES, denying himself our help and support let alone depriving his children of us, their grandparents.

We're really enjoying buying all 3 little gifts and I've said to Mr. S. well just think of the money we've saved by not having any GC to spend it on.

Thinking of you all.

PS sorry maddy, wonderful news about your D and new GC; I hope this is a new beginning for you all.

Thanks smileless ????I did text u not sure if u got it,
Less her she been failing a while not eating, however last few days on Steroids she been enjoying food they prescribed, only temporary

It's hard isn't she been my loyal little friend for 14 years and 7 months I can't imagine my world without her,
However I have had nearly 9 years without my only adored daughter so I guess I will survive,
We will be relieved when tomorrow is over,

Pleased it's been fun dear friend, x

Maddy, such wonderful news! I hope this is the beginning of a whole new episode for you and yours. Imo, you're very wise to just enjoy the time you have with dd and family and not get your hopes up for more. If there is more, I agree with Yoga, just avoid sil.

Good to hear from you, Smileless! Sounds like you're having fun!

So sorry about Rosie, celeb. But agree you're doing the right thing.

Glad ds and partner have invited you two for Christmas!

Not had much sleep!
To be expected my little girl is sleeping in cloakroom I know she uncomfortable

So many kind texts and messages
Nothing from my daughter hard to beleiveshe doesn't care I ought to by now.

Yes thanks starlady our dear son and partner have so helped that was so kind and thoughtful, means w won't dread Xmas. To be fair we seen them every year since estrangement but with her mum coming over this year we weren't expecting it,
How kind of them both to work it all out how they going fit us in!

Yes, it is kind of them, celeb. What thoughtful, loving people!

Sorry ed didn't respond. I didn't think she would, but I guess there's always that hope.

Hello ladies, thank you all so much for your lovely comments after our visit to our daughter and her children, and especially thank you for your hopes that it may continue. My daughter did say she would come to visit as her grandmother is staying with us at the moment, but no news on that yet. I would love for things to be good between us all, but I'm not counting any chickens yet due to the huge problems we have experienced with this relationship.
Celeb, I'm still thinking of you and little Rosie, it's the most awful decision to have to make, but you made it from love, and Rosie is at peace now .
Lucky, I hope you're making progress with the tooth, and also managed to get some effective treatment when you saw the doctor. I know it's a difficult time of year and ill health just makes it more so.
It's raining again this morning where I am, that means we can't take mum out in the wheelchair again. Never mind, my friend is visiting this afternoon so that will entertain mum for a bit.

Thank you for explaining Celeb, I'm so pleased to hear that your son is home from Afghanistan, what a relief it must have been when he arrived back in the UK.
Yogagirl, I'm sorry the story in the paper upset you. Emotions simmer just below veneer when things are so upsetting to us, and regarding not seeing grandchildren is one of the most difficult feelings to manage. I send you and the knowledge that others care.
I ordered a cake topper for mum's birthday cake, it should come today. When the cake is finished I'd put a picture on here, but I don't know how to, any suggestions (or idiot's guide for me) welcomed.

Thank you Maddy I think you are on the right road with your daughter now, just tread carefully.

To post a pic you download, using the box below that says 'Images' hit Browse.. button select pic, hit open, then you write your post and then when you post it, up pops your pic, good luck.

Celebfor you, Mr. C. and little Rosie.

Maddy glad I'm not the only technophobe on here. Hope you manage to post the pic of your mum's birthdayso we can all admire it.

Spent the day yesterday at the Animal Kingdom. At last, we were able to see the joy on the faces of children that we know; it was simply wonderful.

I bought our little God son a bubble blower and he just loves it. It has flashing lights and when the bubbles are blown out he tries to catch them in his little mouthsooo cute.

It's not yet 10 am and the 2 eldest are already in the pool. Happy days.

Smileless lovely to hear you are having a wonderful time with your God sons & family, how old are they?

Thank you Yogagirl for your hopes for our
future relationship with our daughter, I do so hope you're right. Sadly she has been admitted to hospital with a serious infection, SiL didn't let us know, in fact sent a text to our son saying we didn't know as they weren't speaking to us, despite our recent contact. We have been to see her, how could we stay away when our beloved daughter is sick and in hospital. SiL appeared shocked when we arrived and could not have been accused of being friendly! Anyway she is improving and hopefully home soon. She talked normally with us, surely she must know that our love for her prompted our visit. Maybe Yogagirl, she will know and try to mend things.

I hope you're all having a good weekend and send everyone good wishes and .

Maddyone sorry to hear about your daughter hope she recovers quickly,

Does sound like s imlaw causing lot trouble do hope you can get through this with out losing contact please tread carefully my heart goes out to you.

I feel so loved todsyma friend from acquacise called round not seen me since operation bought beautiful hand made glass bottle with coloured lights and stones and fun sized Malteser! Then my close friend came take me out garden centre as dh was working today and I miss Rosie so had keep busy.

Then dear son rang so feeling very loved!

Smilless so pleased you enjoyed little ones.

Happy weekend all.

Oh, Maddy, so sorry about dd. Hope she's feeling better now.

I'm glad you and dh got to visit her in the hospital. Unfortunately, sil's bad reaction suggests he may have something to do with the problems between you. Or maybe he was shocked to see you there because of all her prior complaints about so-called "favoritism," etc. He may be getting confusing "messages" from her.

I just hope they work it out and things become more consistent for you.

Smileless, sounds like you're having a good time in Florida! Enjoy!

Maddy sorry to hear your D is unwell in hospital, good you went to see her. Maybe s.i.l didn't know you had had contact with your D [?] As I said before keep your distance from him, I know it's not nice and would be preferable to all get on, but sounds like he is the problem in this estrangement.

My5yr anniversary of being 'cut out' is looming, I keep wishing I had kept quiet, but when you have been a big part of their lives, seeing them at least twice per week, phoning most days, how do you go from that to nothing

Oh yogagirl 5 years???its long time

Will be 9 years next march for us

At moment am more upset missing our little Rosie
We had nice lunch out with good friends friends who supported us on day but sad coming home to no Rosie
Posie it's not right huge gap in our home.??

Yogagirl and Celeb, what an awfully long time, five years and nine years, I don't know what to say because there is nothing that anyone can say that in any way lessons the pain. I just feel for you, and all the others on this thread who are suffering such abuse, and I believe it is abuse. I have endured gaps of only months and that has been horrible. Every poster on this thread sounds to me to have been a loving and caring parent and grandparent, if you were not, you wouldn't be on here. I just don't understand why young people are doing this in such numbers today.

Celeb, I know you are missing Rosie, it's the price paid for love

I am hoping that things will improve a bit at least with my daughter. I'm no longer under any illusions about SiL but I texted her today and she replied and sent me a picture of the baby. She's still in hospital, not well enough to go home yet.

Yoga sorry you are coming up to 5 years; I agree how hard it is to go from visits, phone calls etc. to nothing.

celeb 9 years, gosh.

Wishing you both peace.