Support for Grans cut-out of AC&GC lives

Yogagirl please don't keep lying and insulting me. No u didn't start this thread nor did I
You are scaring people away with this hostility
I sent u a conciliatory Facebook message but u were not polite enough to acknowledge it I will happily delete u am sure u can understand
I don't want to read any more lies I try to be supportive of everyone
Maddy one I an so pleased for you!/x

Star lady I have not become mAD at anyone but I imagine u wouldn't like lies and insults written by someone u had support ed?

Its ridiculous and one person is ruining the thread
Lara maybe u could moderate this?

Rhinestone if u have read u can see the support thread is sadly being ruined by hostility from an estranged grandmother who wants to be hostile to new posters this thread is open to support those suffering from estrangement be it d I law or grandparent its an open forum
It's been very hard to deal.with
Wish u all best rhinestone hope u feeling better x

The moderator asked us to stop this argument now.

Thank you so much maddy for bringing a little joy into our lives by sharing that joy you've had in yours.

As far as I can make out, recent events aren't connected with your post about going to court Rhineston so please don't worry about that.

Thank you LauraGransnet for your timely reminder that above all else this is a support thread. It should be possible for everyone regardless of their opinion to express themselves without being offensive.

Apart from wishing everyone a Merry Christmas, I haven't posted for several days because TBH I haven't known what to say, and anyone who is even the slightest bit familiar with my posts, will find that very hard to believe.

I am particularlyto see the problems between my oldest friends here on GN Yogagirl and Celeb. When I first posted on the estrangement thread more than 5 years ago, they were the first to welcome me and have both been wonderfully supportive and caring. I doubt I could have come this far without them.

Responding to a poster whoever they may be, with rudeness and insults because you believe them to be rude and insulting, serves no purpose what so ever.

It is not a prerequisite for all who wish to post on this thread to be like minded, to agree completely with one another or even to be CO. It should though be a prerequisite on this and any other thread on GN to be civil.

I'm sure there are many who would agree that this time of the year is the hardest for parents and GP's who are CO. I had a particularly difficult day yesterday as DS spent the day with his brother and nephews; our ES and only GC. I came on to this thread but having caught up with the posts felt unable to talk about how sad I felt and how difficult the day had been.

How terriblyis that, to go onto a support thread and feel unable to ask for the support you needed.

I wish you all a 'Merry Christmas' and hope that what ever you do, and who ever you're with, you'll have an enjoyable day.

Smile less how do.you think.I feel?
Its just not on to accuse anyone of rudeness no one has been rude to anyone other than yogagirl sadly
She is making untrue accusations about other people no one except her have caused any trouble

I will not post again we are 50 Niles from my son I hope I was able support u yesterday smile less x

I know that you're upset Celeband yes, thank you for being there for me yesterday.

Smileless I will always be there for you just arrived! Amazing have big hug take care hope u feeling calmer today xx?

Maddy lovely interesting post, thanks for sharing and have a very Merry Christmas

I did think about how you would feel when your Son from Oz visited your estS & GC Smileless. As I said in a previous post, when my prev. b.i.l said he was meeting up with my estD & GC, it did hit my heart, but can only except the situation & hope for some news. We have had zero news for 5yrs now, so no idea what's going on in their lives Merry Christmas to you S, I hope you have a wonderful day with your Son. xx

Thanks for PMs

MERRY CHRISTMAS Everyone

I wish you the gladness of Christmas which is hope
The spirit of Christmas which is love
The heart of Christmas which is peace

My wish for 2018 is that all the grandmothers denied the love of their precious grandchildren, to be blessed with a grandchild from their other AC in their lives.

God Bless and have a lovely day xxx

That is a lovely message Yogagirl
May all your dreams come true sometime, hope is a powerful attribute, hold on to it along with faith.

Thank you Annsixty

MaddyoneI have been smiling since reading your post. I feel like I’m sharing that reunion with you. What a wonderful way to start off the new year also. Enjoy every minute.
**Smileless **I figured that your son would see his brother at some point. I know it was a hard day for you. Maybe he talked to your ES about the situation? It’s horrible to know that someone you love was seeing the estranged part of the family especially the children. I can only hope and pray for your sake that you get a Xmas miracle and his visit may open up communication.

Thanks yogagirl for lovely pm of course happy to put upset behind us merry Xmas god bless and yes agree annsixty lovely post.
Hope u seeing little one today and enjoy Yogagirl

We are having wonderful time incredible son and partner did us all tasty breakfast and the boys got us lovely presents such surprise as they been earning as did our son and partner it's incredible

Wish us all same warmth with family we having xx

Thank you Smileless and Yoga

Thinking of us all estranged grans and hoping that the Child whose birth some of us celebrate today, will spread Blessings to all estranged families grans and grandchildren, giving some solutions and remission from the ongoing pain.

Bless us all on here.

Happy Christmas everyone despite any heartaches and worries. So glad if we can all just move on and support each other. Just back from a lovely walk and meal out with hubby. Family, with accompanying issues and eggshells, coming tomorrow! Determined to make it the best it can be! Xx

Thank you everyone who has expressed pleasure and delight for us with things smoothing out somewhat with our daughter. We've had a lovely day with our son, partner, and grandchild, plus partner's parents today. Yummy dinner and lovely company, and a very excited little boy! We FaceTimed our other son AND our daughter and family. Tomorrow they're all here for a buffet, we go forward with hope, and with trepidation. God willing, things will calm for a bit.

Blessings to you all, happy, happy Christmas.

Glad things are going so well, Maddy! Hope it continues.

Glad that you two have made up, celeb and Yoga!

Once again, Happy Christmas to everyone! If you can't find joy on this holiday, at least, I hope you find peace.

Hope you are all well and enjoying Christmas. I will be leaving my sons in a few hours and already dread walking into my empty house. I see him and his family rarely so really value what time we do have together, know I am fortunate in having this time with them. Also know they would like to go away one Christmas do nothing is ever certain.
It has been sad seeing the lack of compassion on here lately, for all that need it, especially at this time of year, hope that is behind us now. All our situations are different and complex, but the result is the same sadness we all feel at our child missing from our lives.
Smileless, glad you have your son home. Know it must have hurt you with the brothers meeting up, in better times it would have been all of you, but it can only be a good thing them getting together. Talk will have got round to you and dh, your little grandchildren will hear of you, it would surprise me greatly if your estranged son doesn't contact you. He is probably in a hole and can't get out if it now, that is where his brother could help. I hope so much it does happen.
Love yo you all.

Morning everyone, just to say I also am so happy that you two have made up, Celeb and*Yoga*, you two have been so supportive to me through this very difficult time, along with others, and I really appreciate that.
Smileless I hope that your two sons meeting together might lead to a breakthrough, I have my fingers crossed. But whatever, enjoy your son visiting from Australia.

Wow that has to be best Xmas ever. Despite dh not feeling his best after root canal treatment and a cough,

We were just so spoilt and it was wonderful how ds stepsons got us lovely presents from their little part time jobs! Such surprise!
Ds spoilt us so much and having his partners mum over from s Africa first Xmas for 15 years they spent together! We felt so loved and boy did it help,

Someone sent me photo of ed and her youngest and that did upset me she is nearly 4 we think and first Time seen
her and I was so worried my ed looked ill I thought.
Its old friend of hers guess she felt was trying be kind.
Very painful to see.

Guess I will never stop caring about her that's pain of being a mum. However it didn't spoil the joy of wonderful time we had with our lovely son,

So pleased went well for you maddyone and we able to help when u needed it,

Smilelss and yogagirl let's hear how your time went when you can
Lucklylegs glad you were able enjoy time with your son❤️

Lucklegs I too do hope this can happen for Smilelss.

Indeed for all of us that would be so wonderful I still keep tiny bit of hope alive.

Glad you had such a good Christmas day with your Son Celebgran and that they spoilt you both.

I did have a lovely Christmas day, with my niceD, GD, s.i.l & his mother. It's down to me next year, it's been so long since I hosted Xmas dinner, must be 5yrs, before that it was always me, for about 30yrs, that hosted the Xmas & Sunday dinners, all were welcome, the more the merrier

Did you see the amazing news on the other thread; Grannyactivist who's been estranged for 10yrs from her D&GC, through no fault of hers, got a message on her answer machine from her long lost estD saying Merry Christmas How wonderful is that