I would be so grateful if another gransnetter could calm my now ruffled feathers.
My ex husband is now on wife no. 3 and she is called Grandma D (D stands for her name which I won't type in here). This lady and I have have had a difficult relationship. I was wife no. 1 and bore my husband 3 sons. He left when they were 2, 4 and 7 and apart from the first couple of years of separation, when he would see them every other weekend, they did not see him much at all during their childhood apart from the summer holidays or Christmas when they would visit him in whichever part of the world he was working in. I should add that wherever he was working he rang them every week without fail. As soon as was possible I worked part time for financial reasons which was extraordinarily difficult. I hardly ever went out and can truthfully say I poured all my love and energy into bringing up the boys who have done very well. This lady came to two of my sons' graduation days where she tried to take over the proceedings as if they were her sons. From that moment on it has been hard for me. Even at my eldest son's wedding she thought I had snubbed her (I hadn't said hello because I genuinely did not see her) and was told by my ex to apologise to her to stop things escalating. This I did as it was my son's day and I did not want anything to spoil it. Now I have grandchildren. I found out yesterday that D (wife no. 3) had actually asked my DIL what I had wanted to be called and indeed my DIL's mother's wishes. She did not want to step on anyone's toes. So for all this time (grandchildren are now 4, 2 and 2) I have been under the impression that it was D that had insisted on calling herself grandma. My DIL explained to me that she had told D that she was as much a grandma as me. I find this totally upsetting. My DIL struggles with being a lawyer and just 2 children. She is going through a very tough time work-wise at the moment so I am being careful about tackling her though, as a lawyer, I know she can outsmart me on any debate/discussion. Why can't she see that it rankles or that just because her mum doesn't mind, I shouldn't mind. Perhaps I am blowing this all out of proportion but she /D has never had any children.
I have invited all to my impending big birthday at Christmas and am now thinking of cancelling the whole thing.
Fashion for short, overweight woman
Another silly little ABC game - shops we have loved and lost?