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Oh gosh indeed Teddy. What a time you are having! Never seems to rain but it pours.
Always remember though - this too shall pass. That always gets me through. Good luck.

Well, if nothing else Teddy, your DH is certainly getting a full MOT, let's just hope he is going to get a full service too! My thoughts are with you. Good luck with the test results.

Goodness Teddy, what a distressing time you're having but perhaps the effects of some of the conditions explain a little of why he was behaving the way he was. If he's not to work at all that will take some getting used to and with all the other stuff going on it will be difficult not to get emotional.

But what about you? Do take care of yourself.

Heating went off during the night.We have left message on heating engineers answer phone.Four layers of clothing on and a big fluffy scarf each.
Letter arrived this morning for an appt with thoracic surgeon for Thursday next week.Thank you all again for your comments and kindness.Bit shaky,I don't know if it is the cold or fear.

Hope someone comes out to the heating soon. A good idea with the layers of clothing. Keep your head warm and that keeps the heat in. Hot drinks and warming food too. Do you have family/friends you could go to if the emergency continues?

Teddy111 I cannot imagine how I would cope had I your multitude of stresses and strains to deal with. You are a remarkable lady. Is there any other family member that could offer you the comfort of support throughout this crisis? Please continue to look after yourself.

Oooh Teddy keeping you both in thoughts and prayers!

Teddy111, you have your answer now as to why he is being a monster to you. My husband is also a very unwell man and treats me in a similar way. He is not tight with his money but loses his temper in seconds and is constantly telling me to f* off. He is very difficult to live with and I feel caged at times.

Saw consultant yesterday,he said,'Well you know what you've got,my colleague has left a message that he discussed it with you'.He hadn't,he haid just said ,you have cancer of the lung.
He said he will send him for another lung function test,then refer him to surgeon to operate.
Son has phoned 20 times for money.We haven't answered the phone.

Teddy your fortitude does you credit, but you don't say if there is someone in real life that can support you. I do hope that you have some family or friends who you can share these troubling times with.

Some doctors are the pits at communication. I'm sorry that you had such an appalling breaking of such bad news. My best wishes to you.

Oh Teddy, that's awful. Even if the other Dr had explained it carefully it's still a massive shock, but just to make a blunt statement was callous. Was there any indication of waiting times?

Well done on dealing with your son. It must be hard for you, but you have enough to worry about at the moment. Best wishes to you both.

Teddy111 Was he away a lot with his work and now stuck at home?
Has his behaviour always been like that but not so noticeable as he is away a lot?
Many newly retired men don't have a clue what to do with themselves .

Went for another type of cardiac stress test,passed that,half an hour later pre-op assessment.So lucky they were both done on same day.Letter next day, said,stop Clopidogrel and come into hospital Monday 5th,for operation on the Tuesday 6th March. Phone call to say,ignore letter of appointment.Can you come to the ward for admission Sunday 4th and for op on Monday 5th.We waited for three hours,another man told his wife to go home as it was getting dark.30 miles home,so he said I should go.Next day he was seen by anaesthetist ,nil by mouth and was to be number 6 on the list.Bloods taken again.At 2.30pm seen by surgeon.More bloods done.He phoned at nearly 7.00 pm.He was being discharged.I said I really felt ill,we had thought he would be going to theatre,any minute, all day. They suggested that I pick him up this morning.I felt so terrible for him,a 69yo diabetic,starved all day,no heart meds given.Discharge letter says they had not got the necessary information about where the stents had been inserted from the hospital that had fitted them.They also said they were concerned about his bloods. He has to stop Clopidogrel ,this coming Friday 11th,go for admission on 15th and for op on 16th March.It seems so odd that the information abouts the stents was not noticed until the operation was imminent.So frightening.

Oh dear Teddy what a horrible situation for you both. I'm so sorry this is still ongoing and causing so much stress.

What a rotten time you're having. I hope the next admission goes ahead and isn't such a shambles as this one.

It sounds like a real shambles and I hope things get sorted soon. All this hurry up and wait must be extremely stressful and I wish there was something we could do to help x

Nothing I can say that will help but just wanted to send good wishes.

Thinking of you both Teddy

Thank you so much.All of you.It was so good to be able to tell someone. I try to keep positive,he has such faith in the doctors,I would never want to shake it.It has been hard for him today as his brothers and sisters have all phoned to see how he is and we have told them he hasn't had op.
One thing at a time.

Good wishes to you both, Teddy ?

Thinking about you Teddy.

He has had a flare up of gout in one foot.He didn't mention it to doctors as he was frightened that it might stop the operation.Wednesday he rang the practice nurse,she got him to see locum,he prescribed 4 day course of Colchicine and took blood sample.Next morning,she phoned and said 'You probably have a blood clot,come to surgery for a letter and go to the hospital'.The dr examined him and said come back at 3.30pm for CT scan.CT clear.Thankfully.When we got home,yesterday,he received a letter from the hospital addressing him as Dr. I am sure that it has been sent by mistake.It describes his 4 comorbidities,1/?right lower lobe carcinoma of lung.?for right lower lobectomy.2/Ischaemic heart disease.Inferior ST elevation MI in April 2017 ,Angioplasty to right coronary artery. 3/ Hypertension. 4/Type 11 diabetes on Metformin. and it is from the consultant anaesthetist to the consultant thoracic surgeon.It is a long letter but it is requesting information about what was done in October and the anaesthetist does not have up to date information.It jerks you from one level of anxiety to the next. I hope they have it by next Thursday when he goes back in.They told him to stop his Clopidogrel today,which he has.They have just phoned and said stop your aspirin,as well.He has already taken it this morning.It is all so frightening.He is outide straightening the gate and chatting to the neighbour.I don'tknow how he is managing so well.

The worst thing about the NHS seems to be the admin but unfortunately, it impacts on the patients. Fingers crossed that they will get their act together, gather all the information and your DH has his treatment on Thursday. You remain in my thoughts

Thank you for such quick response.It helps to stop you feeling isolated.