OK, so i posted on here before and thought the advice I got was pretty good so thought I'd come back for some more
We're about to have our first baby and because my family live closer country wise I told them that there was no need to rush to book flights and visit us because after the baby was born we wanted the first two weeks to be about me, my husband and the baby and that after that they were welcome to visit if it suited them or they wanted to, no pressure.
It might have been selfish of me, but I thought it would be nice for my husband to enjoy his paternity leave without having to share the baby with my siblings (my dad is elderly so it would be hard from him to make the trip and sadly my mother died last year, but even if she was alive I wouldn't have asked her to be there for the birth and would have suggested a similar timeline) and they could keep me company when he goes back to work, which they were fine with and totally understand.
When my IL's, who live further away, suggested that they come over my DH told them our plan, but they booked anyway saying they want to visit their other grandchildren and that the timings worked for them. The silver lining here is that they won't be staying with us.
Once they'd booked they kept saying things like lets hope the baby arrives on time so am guessing that they are not down with our plan and will be expecting to visit. My husband says that we should stick to our plan, but they live far away and I don't think its unreasonable to let them visit (even if its frustrating that they didn't respect our wishes) as it would be lovely for my DH to have that 3 gen photo op at the very least and to be lucky enough to introduce his child to his parents.
My question is how many times should we allow them to visit? They are here for 2 weeks, arriving 3 days after the due date. My MIL can be overbearing and passive aggressive if she doesn't get her own way and it can be quite stressful having her around. She's someone who sees her needs as more important than others so won't be someone who'll roll up their sleeves and help out but rather expect to be waited on hand and foot so less is more if you know what I mean. While I want to be fair, I also want those two weeks to be a lovely experience for my husband and I and not marred by them constantly wanting to visit and getting worked up if we say no, so anyone have any suggestions on this one?
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