I'm so scared

(((Hugs)))

DH was diagnosed about 3 years ago, it only showed up in a routine blood test because the nurse had (accidentally) ticked the PSA box (apparently you have to ask to get it done . He had a couple of scans and it hadn’t spread, he had 35 days of radiotherapy, is still having hormone injections but on his regular checks his
PSA is now down as low as it can go. We tend not to worry about it now though it is always in the back of our minds. I do understand the fear though, it is human nature to always fear the worst. Fingers crossed for you and

Of course you are worried and no amount of talking about it will help, neither will trying to pretend it is OK. You simply have to get through the time between now and the results. Try not to think beyond then but you probably will.

My ex has prostrate cancer that has spread to the bones - he has has chemo and radiotherapy and is now on hormones. (We live a long way from each other and I hear this from our children) .The children have upped their visits but are not close geograpically or emotionally. He has had to go through all this alone and I feel very sorry for him.
At worst your husband should still have several (5-10) more years of being able to have an active life, I can understand how devastated you are, but how very lucky you have been to have such a wonderful relationship, and be able to support each other through this. Please try to be positive so that the coming years will be full of love and happiness for you both.

Oh smileless I do feel so sad for you. It doesn't matter how much people say 'try not to worry', of course you will. It's the waiting, isn't it? It's the hardest thing just waiting, and your mind goes into overdrive, imagining only the worst of all scenarios. But the best of all scenarios is just as much a possibility - hold on to that thought.
I've known a few men with prostate cancer and it can be very slow growing - one said that his consultant told him that more often than not, men die with PC, not from it.
It sounds as if your DH and you have a very close and loving relationship and whatever the outcome, you will get through this together, as you have with everything else

Smilless we are firm friends and you know mr celeb and me are here for you every step of the way.

Am praying hard for positive news next week.

It's damn hard and doesn't help being estranged as we both know,

Huge hugs and if you just need to talk you know my no.❤️??

Telling you not to worry is like telling you not to breathe. And you know, the more love we have for, and from, the “patient” the more intense that worry.

You know all the statistics - and they are very good - so I won’t mention them. The very strong likelihood is that you’ll be celebrating many more anniversaries.

Always remember that no matter what happens in life, nothing and no one can take away the love story you’ve shared together. Mine was like yours, but ours ended too soon. For a time the light went out on my life, but the wonderful memories gradually helped switch it back on again....albeit never as brightly. This is just my story, it won’t be yours I’m sure, but it may help.

I will be thinking of you....Rosy.x.

I know Celeb and I thank you.

Aaah Rosy what a lovely post, thank you so much asnd thank you too Bathsheba.

Everyone whose responded today has helped me more than I can say.

Smileless ?
Hopefully it will be surgery then recovery, but cancer is not the death sentence it used to be, thankfully.Of course you will worry, and so will he, it’s natural, but try and stay full of hope for a good outcome.

Smileless, my thoughts are with you both, sorry the waiting is awful and hopefully the results will get clear. Lots of very positive posts which I hope are of some comfort to you.?

Some good replies smileless and I agree totally with maw. Be brave for each other but talk about how you feel. Let your DH say he's worried and you too.

I have had so many scares with my DH. So many operations, scans tests etc and still ongoing at the moment. My DH had prostate cancer many years ago. Had it removed and we have had many happy years since. Make the most of what you have together but be open how you feel. Each one hiding their feelings from the other is not helpful to either of you. I hope all goes well with the biopsy but even if the results are not as you hope there is plenty that can be done so try not to worry.

Thank you Crafting. I told Mr. S. about this thread, and read him all of the kind responses. I was very emotional as I read them aloud and he was emotional as he listened.

We then talked and hugged and both felt better by being open and honest about our fears. I was coming on today to thank Maw and tell her how helpful her advice had been, it was her post that prompted me to tell him about this thread.

Thanks Maw.

Prostate cancer has been in the news this week. It now more widespread than breast cancer and is severely under funded. As I said above, my DH has it, and now my brother-in-law has been diagnosed with it. Hopefuly Smilesless your DH hasn't got it, but for those who have, it's about time this was brought to the fore.

Glad to be of help smileless

Well the first hurdle has been dealt with and Mr. S. is home, a little worse for wear but home safe and sound.

We don't have much info. It was small but we don't know if they've removed it all but I think they must have. Now we must wait for the results but I'm just relieved that today is over and he's back home, all safely tucked up in bed and sleeping like a baby.

Phew! Best wishes to you both.

As you say first medical hurdle smileless, how relieved you must be that the day is over, I wonder though if much more than that has been achieved as you and your very much loved husband have been honest with each other, a very important hurdle. Wishing you both a peaceful night and sending my love and good wishes. Sleep well.

Sending you very best wishes and ((hugs)) smileless and hope you both have a very good night and everything will start to look so much brighter.

Thank you MissAdventure and Synonymous.

It certainly helped us both talking about it instead of trying to be brave cornergran and we both had a good night's sleep.

It’s always good to talk smileless hope all goes well for you both.

Onwards and upwards Smileless hope everything goes well for you when you get the results ?

Smileless and Mr S wishing you both all the best. X

Hoping all will go well. Don’t ever let worry about the future spoil the present.

I was scared when I started this thread but not nearly as scared as I've been today.

Mr. S. woke me at 7.00 am, so pale and in so much pain he could hardly stand. We spent the morning at the hospital and they fitted a catheta (sorry if I've spelled that incorrrectly)which he has to have for 2 weeks.

He had a blood clot so was unable to urinate, his bladder was full and his belly distended. I don't know who was more afraid, him or me.

Our DS is in Oz, just 4.5 months into the breakdown of his marriage so we haven't even told him about his dad's biopsy so not to worry him. We've been estranged from his brother for more than 5 years so no comfort or support to be found there.

He's back home, he's got his colour back and I even managed not to faint when they were getting him ready to leave and I saw how much blood he'd passed. I'm the most squeamish person I know. Mr. S. was very impressed with my outward composure.

I'm just finding it rather difficult. I feel so alone, vulnerable and scared. I know it's silly but it would be so much easier if we still had our ES and things were the way they used to be and if our DS wasn't on the other side of the world.

Im just reading this today so by now you may have results. Hope all goes well.