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Driving at speed.

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Cabbie21 Mon 02-Apr-18 09:35:39

When we go out together it is always in DH’s car and he always drives. He is an excellent driver, can park on a sixpence and is very confident.
The problem is he drives too fast.
He has gadgets in his car which warn him of cameras, though sometimes I do remind him if we are approaching a restriction.
I know he thinks it is ok to exceed the limit, and to be honest, so do I at times eg on a clear quiet dual carriageway in good weather. But otherwise I stick to the limits.
Even in wet weather or mist, DH drives at the maximum limit, or sometimes more ( as long as he doesn’t Get caught).

One thing that really bothers me is that I think he is late slowing down when it is obvious that there is a slower car or queue ahead. He leaves it till the last minute.
In some of these situations I can’t help but react, it might just be a sound I make, or clinging on to the seat, but sometimes I speak out. I can’t help it.
But he gets so angry. Last Saturday he yelled at me really loudly. It made him cough, and I guess it may have brought on his angina. He then said” one day you will kill me and then you will be glad”.
I was shocked, to say the least. I did not speak again. When we got home he did apologise, but said how much it annoys him when I comment on his driving. In reply I said, his speed scares me which is why I comment.
Does anyone else have this issue? How do you react?

bikergran Wed 04-Apr-18 10:09:42

Has anyone been watching the "100 yr old drivers"!!! oh myyy........ theres was one this week who admitted driving at speed!! round bends etc at one point he was on other side of the road but maybe it was dual carriageway I couldnt really tell.
I do wonder about their reaction times if something was round a bend or person crossing the country road or walkers etc.yet the driving examiners seemed to pass most of them with flying colours! one or two have bad it sujested they hang up their car keys. (soz if its already been mentioned nto read all the thread n dashing off to work) smile

Poppsbaggie Wed 04-Apr-18 10:44:46

In my humble opinion many speed limits are unreasonable and are there simply to generate income. It's perfectly legal to race around country lanes at ridiculous speeds, yet motorways are restricted to 70. Bonkers!

Luckygirl Wed 04-Apr-18 10:48:43

You cannot criticise the driving of a male - it is like telling them their penis is not up to the mark. It is seriously pathetic that telling a fellow adult that you would be happier if they slowed down a bit is "getting at" them.

FarNorth Wed 04-Apr-18 12:25:38

"getting at me" is a popular come-back from a male who wants a female to shut up for fear she'll be called a "nag".
So she shuts up and he gets his own way.
Yes, pathetic of both of them.

auntbett Wed 04-Apr-18 13:50:33

I just don't agree with breaking the speed limit. I also think that there should be restrictions on the capacity for modern cars to be able to reach ridiculously high speeds. We live in times where traffic congestion is a fact of life and almost every time you venture onto the motorways there is someone belting along and acting in a cavalier and bullying way and not taking into account the road conditions and amount of traffic around. My sister had a problem with her husband driving fast and braking at the last minute. She now says to him "please drive in a way that we can both enjoy the ride". There are some thoughtless gits around.

Urmstongran Wed 04-Apr-18 19:52:08

My husband drives well. As I’ve gotten older I’ve become a bit of a nervous passenger. Not nice for either of us really. So, I’ve taken to sitting in the back like the Queen Mum!

PenJK50 Wed 04-Apr-18 21:44:33

Love the idea of being the Queen Mum! I try everything to stop myself from clinging to the door for dear life but still do it. And my husband’s a great driver but my anxiety is dreadful.

sharonarnott Thu 05-Apr-18 18:17:50

For months at the end of last year I kept telling my husband it was only a matter of time before he got caught for speeding AGAIN. He frightens me to death and I do not enjoy going out with him. Every time I mentioned it he got very shirty and told me he wasn't and that he had learned his lesson from the time before. Surprise surprise at the beginning of December a letter arrived for him informing him that he had been captured speeding on our stretch of road. I give up!

MissAdventure Thu 05-Apr-18 18:32:27

Well, I think part of a 'speed awareness' course should be that regular passengers should have to attend too.
Sure that would be a popular idea.
I'd better hide now.