Potentailly awkward birthday party

I found myself in a similar position. I had fallen out with my niece, so my brother and sil did not speak to me either for a year. My nephew invited me to his wedding (niece's brother), and I didn't know what to do.

Afetr much thought and speaking to friends, I decided to go, although I felt VERY awkward.

Turned out to be a fantastic day; my sil was happy to see me, as was my brother, although I hid when photos were being taken. My niece came up to me me (she was bridesmaid) and spoke to me as nothing had happened. I was relieved.

Following the lunch, I approached my niece, put my arms around her and said 'Can we just forget our argument?' 'Of course!' she said.

So it may just be that this will be an opportunity to become friends again, even though you feel anxious (as I did).

I would take the opportunity to go. You may not get another one. xx

Muddled sisters! Was unable to go to elder twin's wedding party. Not invited to the Wedding of dear niece with whom I have the dispute My sister was the one that was incandescent with rage. Still with me?
The remark was a throwaway line - "Oh well I will sleep in the car". DN having told me that even I was not welcome to stay in her house if she was not there. what she did not know was that I had converted one of my cars into a traveling bed on one of my tours of Ireland some years before. She mistook my comment as emotional blackmail so that I could persuade her to change her mind. Nothing of the sort. But several attempts to explain; apologise; make it right, has resulted in complete failure.
I will be wrapping all this problem into a metaphorical golden blue cloth and handing it over to a higher authority! Many thanks again. You are right Blue 60.

My father always told me..you can please some of the people some of the time but not all of the people all the time..so just please yourself..do not travel if uncomfortable and you should not stress..I recently had to attend two family funerals and one member of our family had totally osterzied me..my siblings all embraced me realized it was not me causing this trouble..I have spent 12 years in the wilderness ..hold tight and make sure you are content

Nanah67
Osterized
That made me laugh ( in a kindly way)
Shhh...it's ostracised.

My son and his wife had fallen out with me in the year of my daughter’s wedding. He wrote to me that we were not to speak on that day. Seems crazy now and I still don’t know what it was all about. Would I have boycotted my daughter’s wedding because of it? No way!

So decide what is more important, the overall event, or this feud, which may have been forgotten by the other people by now.
Do what you really want to do and enjoy whatever you decide.

I won't allow myself to be offended by other people. I take the attitude that we are all individuals and it is up to each person to behave the way they see fit. I know what I consider as a proper way to behave, and am not prepared to lower myself to other people's standards!!! I normally seem to get on with everyone. I had a neighbour years ago who decided not to talk to me and I noticed she would pretend she hadn't seen me. However, I just carried on as if nothing had ever happened. We came face to face following the death of my husband when I called at her house to give the news to her husband. I just spoke to her as I had in the past, and our relationship returned to how it had previously been, just as if her silence had never happened! It caused me a certain amount of personal amusement.

sorry I dont see any attempt at healing a rift in an invitation?

OP from your opening sentence you sound full of apprehension. Trust your gut and politely decline.