I'm feeling a bit fragile!
I have been trying desperately to keep contact with one of my AC for the last few years.
I'm stretched to full capacity. Like wet tissue paper about to tear into tiny insignificant pieces.
Its been so hard (as many of you will already know!) walking on eggshells. Trying to find that last bit of patience. Trying NOT to give AC reasons to break yet another arrangement to see GC.
Gaslighting and gossiping about me is the order of the day.
I'm isolated from my other AC's as they don't really get what is happening.
Nearly NCAC is charming and friendly to brothers and sisters so whowould believe me if I tried to explain anyway?
The isolation is almost unbearable. I feel like raw meat being whipped.
The nearly NCAC is waging such a terrifying war.
Every thing we used to do as a family, Nearly NCAC has taken control of and is now celebrated at Nearly's house instead of the family home, where we used to congregate.
I'm not invited.
This causes stress for the other AC's as they don't want to hurt my feelings, or feel they haven't done the right thing. Obviously they're caught in the middle! So they don't call or visit as they used to. It all causes too much fuss when all they want to do is get on with their lives.
It feels as if my lovely little family with all its difficulties is being broken up under the strain.
All, my side of the family (Nearlys Uncles Aunties cousins etc. + my mother and father) have gradually been excluded. Various excuses have given a gloss of normality to this behaviour. But all the 'excluded' have noticed the lack of contact and are mystified.
Nearly grew up with these people and seemed to enjoy their company all the while. Even as a young adult Nearly met up with these relatives frequently......until recently.
Sad for me if Nearly is happiest without us, but I am fast becoming accepting of this state of affairs.
I still love Nearly, but I'm sure Nearly doesn't feel the same way. I would let them go and try never to contact or even think of them, but for the GC
And what of this malicious mendacious game playing?
I'm trying to set things down to make some sense. But I'm afraid I'm just rambling really.
The really hard thing is not being able to see the GC.
I've been doing EVERYHING Nearly has required of me.
At first I wanted bridges to be mended. Although we would never have the caring relationship I had anticipated. I thought I could rub along, play the game....so long as I can see the GC.
Its the deliberate cutting me out of Gc life that is so very very hurtful.
I ring once a week, have to wait for a few days to get a reply call. Told I cant see GC for what ever reason that week try again next. One in every 7/8 week I get to see one of the GC if I'm lucky!!
Nearly is stretching it out slowly so that eventually I wont get to see them at all.
Its like bringing a frog to the boil, only I KNOW whats going on, and I FEEL every second of it.
I don't think there is anything anyone can do.
Its just helpful to know some of you here do REALLY understand and I don't have to put on a brave spin as I complain about my problems.
Great big Thanks to all for that
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!