As so many others have said, I agree, it is very sad and hard on you that your dh isn't helping you, with grace. However, I suggest you think about what's likely to make you and him happier in the long run and to get you the help you need now. Being angry and telling him off and asking whats the matter with him - will surely lead to him being defensive and resentful, and you feeling aggrieved . And if he helps it will be with bad grace, so you and he will go on feeling angry with each other. I don't think this is what you you want - is it? So maybe you could take a deep breath, find a calm place in yourself, and say you'd like to talk to him about what is happening. Who do you want to be? I don't think you want to be a vengeful person. So be a wise one instead - speak up for yourself and what you need, and be open to hear what he is feeling and thinking, even if you see it differently. Listening for understanding, not judgement, is the most effective thing we can do to make our relationships happier and is also top of the list if you want to influence someone. It could make a huge difference , not just now, but in the future.
