What planet do men come from?

One of the best !!!! I had been out at work all day. Came in really tired. No dishes washed all day, to be informed, with a Great sigh, !!! I've emptied your bin.

Yes annep that is a pretty good translation. You did miss the key point though which is “why bother it will be dirty again in a couple of hours”

He will walk past the unmade bed, it could be like it all day. Leaves a glass he has used on the draining board, likewise the knife he would use for fruit. The dishwasher is just under said board. I believe in "don't put it down put it away" as it saves me work. Having said that when I broke my elbow just before Christmas and had two spells in hospital for surgery he cooked, cleaned, made beds, did shopping and waited on me. I wouldn't have him any other way bless him.

My friend used to call her retired husband “rigor mortis”

When I first lived with my husband, I assumed we would share the household chores.
No, apparently housework is a bourgeois concept!
Luckily my 2 sons are the complete opposite. They share chores, child care & are brilliant cooks. Karma eh?

Me too. Bathroom stays cleaner longer too!

We agreed many years ago that I would leave a jobs list. It has saved many arguments and misunderstandings. There is one job that is reserved for me, cleaning the toilets. I just want to say 'why do I have to do them, you in it too', but I have learnt not to push too far......

Today, me: can you fill up the watering can please
Hubby: why?
Me: because you left it empty yesterday
One word MEN!

Spills something. Only Hoovers that little bit -not the obvious dirt around it.

I am not bothered about that. It’s the selfishness, stupidity and sulking that get me.

I have certainly wondered not only what planet some men come from, but from which century?

Yes Neilspurgeon I've heard that one too. Intelligent argument ?

Count my blessings every day, esp after reading this thread. We both retired at same time and have got into habit of he cleans downstairs and I do upstairs. Kitchen sparkles when he's finished with it but he does get twitchy when I want to use the hob when it's just been cleaned. Sadly I am a messy cook. I'm also untidy and leave drawers and cupboards ajar. I love to tidy up and get things straight but can't seem to keep them like that. In my defence, the bathrooms are usually pristine.

I have no complaints about how this house is run. He does a lot of jobs around the house without me asking and no fuss afterwards. I think it was because he didn't marry or live with someone until he was in his 40s and was use to looking after himself.

Mine can’t leave the house for more than a few minutes without calling me on his mobile, for example ‘I’m just leaving Tesco/the petrol station/the allotment now’ ?...as if I’m interested.

But this weeks he’s managed to lock himself out of his mobile ??? so he’s gone golfing and I’ve no idea how long he’ll be, nor do I care!

OldMeg I assume you're joking?

The Wonderful Man is cycling across France right now so my house is gradually being cleaned, one room at a time, in the sure and certain knowledge that it will stay that way until he returns. He is very, very untidy and just leaves things lying around all the time. However, he is also more than capable of washing, ironing, cooking and cleaning - and if he notices things that need doing he will set to with a will. He does the lion's share of work on our allotment, takes complete responsibility for the car and works endlessly on our big old house, which is a bit like the Forth Bridge and in need of constant upkeep. So, no complaints here, but I do wish he would learn to put things back in place when he's done with them.

Its a fair compromise I think. grannyactivist. Sounds a darling. Mine is like that.

I live alone and the AC, GC and GGC all live well over 100 miles away in different directions, so rarely here for me to clean more than I do.
I do do windows weekly, vac every other day (cordless and quick) and wile everything with a microfibre cloth with a bit of windolene sprayed on it. I have 5 large mirrors plus glass side and console tables and I like them sparkling.
All in all it takes about 40 mins tops including watering houseplants and making bed/loading washing machine.
There is no dust under furniture or behind sofa cushions as I do everything regularly as I did when married with 5 children. Old habits die hard.

This planet.

Gabriella Yes we have a morning routine between us whuch is great but it doesnt cover everything. Also need to fit in on a regular basis the following- washing bathroom and kitchen floors , wooden floors, window sills, outside doors, hanging clothes+ bringing in+ folding+ ironing, cleaning fridge food shopping, wash kitchen unit doors, empty bins wash bins, clean bathroom shower toilet, cutlery drawer,dust blinds, change beds. Its exhausting sometimes. Small things add up.

i.e. Look at the marks on the window when the suns out they always look much better when you do them.
Don't have to clean the windows now.
Hate this gloss paint always looks streaky when I do it. (no glossing for me).

I remember staying at a boyfriend's flat for a weekend . On the Saturday I was looking for an earring that I thought had rolled under his bed. Oh my god ! Piled from the floor to mattress were socks and underpants , I had wondered about the musty smell . Now to my horror I'd realised why. I didn't stay a second night.

The more i read about otger peoples husbands/partners the more I appreciate mine. He is very tidy and helps a lot and is supportive. Yes he has some irritating ways (Im sure I do too!) And we have our arguments, but the pluses far outweigh the minuses!

I think Gransnet is great Pollyperkins for sharing and learning about relationships. As well as advice, sharing viewpoints, etc. Its great ?

Anyone’s other half actually put his dirty washing by the side of the washing hamper? This is what mine has been known to do, why he can’t pick up the lid I don’t know ?