What planet do men come from?

Yes mine often sits them on top of the basket lol.

It's called strategic incompetence. When I explain how necessary it is to clean the outside of the toilet, the pedestal, where men drip their wee, I'm met with sulks. Men cannot be trusted to clean properly so we women sigh and just do it themselves.

Since DH retired I have realised that he comes from a little know planet . It is one where they know what you are going to say after you have said two words of a sentence . At this point they wander off answering a question you haven’t asked. A while later they return and swear black is white that you didn’t say any thing of the sort earlier.

ginny I recognise that lol.

I recognise that one too ginny. DH has lost some of his hearing and always says I have not said things so now I have started writing them down which is better for my blood pressure than any pills!
I have a 'Daily meal planner' now on which I write what we have planned for each meal so that when he asks I can ask him what I wrote on it. Best £1 I ever spent at Wilko's! The calendar has all the appointments written on it. I have all jobs listed (with a tick box by them for when thry are done), telephone calls etc.,etc., etc. My lists are now infamous and now when I am told that I have never said something I just point to the list.

I have also had the 'your bin' scenario which has stopped since I told him he must not use it if it is mine and to get his own if that was how he felt. I say that for anything that is suddenly 'yours' and that seems quite effective.

To be fair he does so much that I cannot complain and we have a cleaner who is a gem. I find that there is always something to complain about if you try hard enough so I now concentrate on praise which works much better and just try to make sure we communicate well.

I agree with your last comment Synonymous turn things on their head sometimes and praise for a job well done. Positive reinforcement, it works well.

Early days of marriage , I suggested housework shared( both working full time) his response was, you look after house, I look after car! He has improved....a little .