Breaking away

All above is right you'd be better off on your own than have that in your life!

This discussion appears in the daily list from GN as ‘She made nasty comments about the grandkids’, wh is quite a remove from the OP’s heading of Breaking Away. The grandchildren mentioned were those of a third person, and were brought in as an example of unfriendly behaviour. This sort of thing has happened before and IMO it skews the thread.

Crumbs! Another post on Friendships. Are they worth all the aggro I'm wondering??? If you go off a friend for whatever reason why worry - find another or go without.
Sorry to sound harsh but why put up with it?

Ditto my 1st post, walk away ....

Hi CrazyH, theres a part of me that feels very sorry for your friend. She sounds very insecure and unhappy. Sometimes lashing out says more about her than her victims. Very sad.

Meanness alone would make me not want her in my life.

Oh I have a friend like this but she’s not tight she’s toxic, she complains about everyone. None of her neighbours talk to her nor do her family. She’s never married or had children but desperate for both.Shes a very jealous person and very nosy. If she gets in with a new friend she drops you and lies about where she is or what she’s doing. She can turn on you like a sixpence. If you don’t answer the phone to her or reply to her messages she sends you messages asking if your ignoring her.Its all very tiring so like you crazy I’ve had enough, why do we allow these so called friends anymore of our time than they deserve.

Yes, I was a glutton for punishment........the one reason I stuck with her was that she was hospitable. Her door was always open so to speak, but once you enter the door, the conversation is all about me, me, me, and ends up either with discussions on politics, religion (she once told me I wasn't a good Christian, because I couldn't quote from it). She berates other religions.
Another reason I tolerated her was the mutual friends we have...they too have the same opinion of her, but are more tolerant than I am. We are a little group of 4 ...we meet occasionally for coffee. But I have told the other friends I am dropping out....enough is enough.

By the way, my kids are not too keen on her......they have known her for as long as I have, and keep saying, they have yet to see a smile on her face. They say all your other friends are so cheerful and jokey ...they call this one Aunty HappyFace?

I have found that most of my close friendships have a lifespan of approximately fifteen years. After that we have generally moved on in life or changed to a point where we no longer share anything in common. There are a couple of friends who I can go months without seeing and it is always as if we have never been apart when we do meet up.

Good for you crazyH. I know you'll feel happier and a great relief without her. I've been there by continuing a "so called friendship" with ex husband. As Yellowmellow says, we are treated how WE allow people to treat us. All the best.

You call her a friend...I don’t think so, she’s toxic!

I too ditched a friend after 40 years,I tried to see the good in her,because her mother wasn’t kind to her and compared her with her prettier sister,but her upbringing made her very hard on her children and husband, he died of heart attack at 42.I think I started to judge her more as time went on,and used to dread seeing her.There was no row,I just stopped making contact,she never queried why.Familiarity breeds contempt!