DP and I are retired, lived together 16 yrs in house we bought together.
I have an adult son, who’s still lives at home.
He suffers with in my words ocd, his words routine.
He get up early so that he can get in shower before son goes out to work 7am because he doesn’t want to get in after him
Everything is done at the same time say within 10 minutes
I could literally write it in order.
7am shower
9am puts washer on 1st time
10am out to shops, daily stuff bread, veg
11.45-12 lunch
1pm. Where we going, if he’s not doing anything himself
4.45pm shall I put oven on for tea
After tea, he does dishes and cleans round.
6.30pm shower again
Puts washing in machine 2nd time
7pm walk round block, last 5 years
Before bed, he’ll go check outside on the front at cars( god knows why there not new )
Bed 6 out 7 nights 11.15pm
If I mention anything he nearly always turns it round and brings son into it, ie oh but if he said what times tea you would jump to it. I do it when I’m hungry or ready.
This as got worse since he’s been retired, he as to be doing something, hardly ever stays around the house unless he wants to wash the cars or cut the hedges.
He will help more now , ie polish, hoover, but only hoover downstairs mainly. Uses the shower twice daily but never thinks to clean the glass with cleaner. Selected jobs
Yet today, he’s out on his precious motorbike, it takes him 30 mins to put his gear on everything as to be just so.
Comes back, then spends an hour cleaning it, gleaming
I dosed off, woke at 4.55 , bloody 5pm shall I order the curry(sat takeaway) aghhh . Him and his bloody ocd rountine. I wouldn’t let him, in the end he’s walking around so I just say bloody order it.
I suffer with anxiety/ depression and I’m sure he’s added to this enormously recently.
I’m starting to try and get out more on my own (anxiety stops me) to get a break from his routine. He says I have one, yes I do but it’s not timed to the clock and does change.
Any one else similar ?
Good Morning Wednesday 24 April 2024