Hi, My DH likes a drink, I am not anti alcohol and previously have enjoyed a couple of drinks but I have never needed alcohol. Due to my medication I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since May 2017. When my husband comes in from work the first thing he does is neck a glass of red wine, then he pours his next. If I am lucky he will stop at half a bottle. I dread weekends because, depending on how much booze he consumes, he can either be unpleasant or all over me. The uncertainty of how he is going to behave at the weekend makes me anxious and its rare we don't row about booze. He thinks I am unreasonable if I ask him to stop drinking, sometimes he deliberately carries on drinking to upset me. He goes through phases of trying to cut back but he is vile because he desperately wants a drink so for me it is just as bad as him drinking. How much is too much booze? My life is further complicated by his elderly father and step-mother who we moved into a Home nearer to us earlier this year, I have much of the responsibility for them. Our DD who, although happily married with two children, has been ill and needed a lot of support for the last 2 and half years. For the last 18 months I have has my DD's two elderly dogs living with me because of my DD's health. I love the dogs but its yet more responsibility. I am early 60's and my own health isn't great. I have three sons all married, each with two children and I feel I am on a hamster wheel trying to see everyone and not showing favour. My DH loves family gatherings, he loves to showboat cook but mainly he loves drinking buddies for the afternoon/evening. He loves the GC but spending an hour with them is the best he can manage. He doesn't know how to talk to them. I often end up with 8 children, who I adore and mostly really enjoy being with, but there are times I would like to just be an adult and join in the adult conversations. I know I sound sorry for myself and I freely admit I am, but I have no idea how to untangle myself from everyones life without hurting the people I love. I never have time to do anything that isn't family based. I hardly every see friends and my interests and hobbies are neglected. I haven't done anything just for myself for nearly four years. I feel boring, bored and a drudge. I welcome any thoughts or comments because I go round and round trying to figure out how to change what is happening and get out of the Groundhog Day loop but I need fresh perspective. I hate myself for feeling so fed up and resentful. I know there is a world out there and I don't want to be too old before I escape; I don't want to miss it!
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