Posting for the first time because I'm wondering if any other parents feel like this about their adult child.
My adult daughter, my only child, isn't really what I imagined her to be, and I struggle with it more as she gets older.
In many ways, she is rather successful at a considerably young age (24). She is a very glamorous young woman, and worked hard to achieve a career in fashion (which I understand is a notoriously difficult industry to crack). In comparison to my friends' similarly aged children, she is undoubtedly the most driven and successful so far - all my friends wish she was theirs!
But she's not really the daughter I would've wanted. At this age, I imagined we'd be chatting about marriage/grandkids, she'd live near us, maybe have/or be studying for a more meaningful job like being a vet or a doctor, as she was always an outstanding student and very clever.
Instead she's rather cold and absent, lives far away from us in the city, and is constantly dripping in obscenely expensive designer clothing and accessories, something I don't really understand. It just seems shallow and materialistic to me. She's not really interested in having kids, although she has an (equally ambitious) long-term partner.
It makes me sad and depressed every day. Wondering if anyone else experiences this but doesn't admit to it?
Problem - mother-in-law
Grandparenting - long-distance
Retirement - one-way deal?