I am in desperate need of advice , and really have no one to ask.
Those that have read previous posts know that the last time I saw my son, his fiancée and GD, then aged 3 months, was last Boxing Day. I don’t know why, but they haven’t been near since. I have mobility problems and suffer from anxiety. Apart from 2 dentist and a a doctors appointment, I haven’t left the house since the end of January. My son knows all my problems, but kept saying if I wanted to see them I had to go to their second storey flat.
Anyway, situation now is, they have moved to a house, 2 hours drive away. This was in August, I have sent the occasional text message, and he sometimes replies, he told me a week before the move. I sent another text a few days later asking about the house and could I have an address to send flowers etc, no reply. I sent the odd message, upbeat, asking how they are and giving family gossip, he sometimes replied in like.
Then two weeks ago he contacted me on FaceTime out of the blue !and we had a nice chat, his dad was with me, and it was lovely. Then he said the reason he had phoned was because they were due another child in the new year and as his fiancée had put it on Facebook, he didn’t want me to hear from someone else. We were shocked, but said the right things, though my husband was still a little short with him.
He said we would be welcome to visit, he would let me have the address when I arranged a date, DH muttered something about thinking on it, and the call ended.
Since then nothing, I sent a message saying we were pleased to hear from him, and glad with the news and that he is happy and well, no reply. He doesn’t answer any calls, not since last Christmas, it’s only text, normally in the morning when he is on his way to work I think, the time he has read it comes up under the message, it can take days for him to open a message. I have tried to get DH to take me, but he says “he doesn’t want to go where he isn’t wanted, the fiancée has made it clear she doesn’t want us, and our GD doesn’t even know us.” He also feels that I will get stressed about it, and then get upset when my beloved GD doesn’t recognise us, I suppose he’s right on that. My other children, both drive, and live at home, when I mentioned their brother they say he’s gone by his own choice, if he wants to see them , he can come here.
What do I do, what do I say to my son.
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