Family

Silly daughter

Unbelievable!
Two adults, one of whom is refusing to stay in a house where her sister has stayed.
I'd leave them to it.
As others have said, why should it blight your life?
Carry on, be pleasant and loving to both but refuse go be drawn on any aspect of their petty squabble and close down firmly, any discussion/rant either of them starts.
Good luck
I hope they come to their senses.

Sorry...her aunt not her sister.

...and, as a rider, Keep alcohol well out of reach. It's disgusting that women argue (and sometimes fight) after a drinking session. Have they no sense of decorum?

I don’t understand why your daughter wouldn’t stay in a house where her aunt has been, but isn’t actually there at the time? What does she think will happen? I do despair of people sometimes. Does she know how lucky she is to have a mum as an adult? Lots of us don’t. Or sisters for that matter. She does need a wake-up call. And think about her mum more.

We don't have nearly enough information on which to base any help or advice but whatever the rights and wrongs it is quite clear that your daughter does not feel you are giving her the backup and support she expects from her mother and that you are therefore being disloyal by having your sister to stay with you. Do you really need to do this? It is inflaming the situation and putting your relationship with your own daughter and grandchildren at risk.

It depends what the falling out was about.

I agree with GabriellaG54

Is it that your daughter feels you are disloyal to her because you had her aunt to stay? She needs to understand that this is THEIR argument, that you love her and you love your sister and that you will care on as normal with both whilst THEY sort out their argument...and I they don't sort it that is their choice!!

But are you fearful of your daughter withdrawing from you because of this? That is understandable and scary! But please please don't let her take over your life and what you want to do, because of that fear. It is your daughter /sister who have to make choices, not you!

My brother in law and SIL (twins) haven’t spoken for years.
Both are now very ill. Yesterday my husband was going to take his brother out of the hospice because he wanted to see her. Unfortunately he was too weak so couldn’t manage it.
FF’s sake get them to sort it out.
Time does run out.