Sunday lunch today

I think I would be telling him to cook his own lunch in future!

I don’t do roast Sunday lunches unless extended family are coming over. Otherwise it’s chops or sausage and mash.My husband has never appreciated my cooking which is still better than his mother’s was...e everything that woman touched came out of a tin or packet...it’s how he was brought up and he’s seems not to appreciate fresh meat and veg and the preparation that goes into it. Even after forty years he would prefer a ready meal. I think it must be sloppy veg and salt content that attracts him. I have been told by my daughter and grandchildren and friends that I am an excellent cook...my son has surpassed me now I think and my son in law runs me pretty close.

What a nasty way for him to behave after you went to so much trouble, I have a kind and generous husband who treats me with respect but a response like that would have seen his meal being tipped in the bin that's for certain!

Don't let him treat you like this and make you feel inadequate and upset, None of us are perfect but a little kindness goes a long way X

Don’t feel bad Hilmix, you are not alone. There are times my feelings get hurt after slaving away at fixing some special dinner only to receive the “It’s ok” verdict. Not sure why I bother to try either, but I do. My husband is a meat and potato kind of guy and a picky eater. I know this so I need to just quit trying to change his eating habits. We need to slap their quick fix dinner in front of them and eat our own prepared feast. They are like children sometimes and we need to pick our battles.

Please don’t be upset.
Tough steak, my Mum used to say “it’s tougher where there’s none. He should be greatful that you cooked a lovely meal for him, and greatful for food on your table. Many people don’t have either.

Leonard Cohen? No wonder you're depressed

Show him the kitchen a d ask him to show you how it's done! As for the knife just buy a new set of cutlery, hopefully spending money will take the sharpness off his tongue.

Find the most expensive restaurant you can and book you both in for lunch on Sunday. Make sure you have a starter and desert, and when he's presented with the bill, say how much you enjoyed the food, and not having to cook and suggest you make it a regular booking for your Sunday meal.

You are being treated appallingly !! Something has to change here . At the very least you deserve to be taken out for lunch next Sunday . Has he always been like this ?

My hubby said that to me once !!! I promptly picked up his plate and put it in the bin, he has never complained since I wonder why .

Sore teeth, maybe? Just a thought.....

He may be the centre or your world but I don't think you are the centre of his...

What a thoughtless and ungrateful man. I’d have flung his food in the bin and told him to make his own. I agree with others- give him a ready meal and just cook for yourself.

Hillmix - to make life easy for yourself be sure to use a ready baked pastry flan for the base of your ‘The Help’ recipe pie ? ???

I have to say, in listening to Leonard Cohen you have brought it on yourself!

I feel like a maid sometimes. Spent all morning food shopping and looking for birthdays presents and cards. Came home, put shopping away, made lunch, washed up. DH sat at his computer throughout. Done nothing in the house whatsoever. This is fairly normal. I could scream.

Mine used to be exactly the same and I used to think I must be a terrible cook. Then our Dd started saying she preferred hers different to dad, which in one way made me realise that it was just his taste, but then I found myself never able to please both of them which was even worse. (in her mitigation our DD is disabled and was bed-bound at the time so couldn't cook).
Eventually I just said, well you two never agree so I'm making it how I like it and if either of you aren't happy you'll have to cook. (by this time our DD was able to potter about the house a bit with difficulty but as I have major health problems it was just as hard for me anyway).
So they did start to cook the odd meal. And at first I would shower them with praise. But after a while, I might say, the chilli is a bit hot for my taste so I'll just eat a little with a lot of the rice, but thank you very much for cooking it. They got the hint when it was done to them.
Now the rule seems to be. 'Thank you for a lovely meal' if we enjoy it, or 'thanks for cooking tonight' if not, and no more said unless the cook specifically asks.
But it has taken ages to 'train' them.

I suspect you wrote partly in jest, but your post did ring alarm bells about pleasing him and being punished. Is this passive aggression on his part? Is he trying to control you?
Mind you, more than five minutes of Leonard Cohen would depress the hell out of me.

Next Sunday ...book lunch at the pub ...he can complain to them !! (bet he doesn't !) ….my old man once THREW a lamb chop at the fresly decorated wall because he said it was tough and had the temerity to say mine wasn't …...I left the stain there for the next three years until we moved ...oh and all I said to him was 'I thought you were in the Navy'..which puzzled him enough to say Yes you know I was ….so I simply said Ohm Chocks (chops) away is an RAF expression ...so I wondered. I said no more but I wasn't happy !!!!

I think I would've tipped his dinner over his head or just thrown it in the bin and tell him to sort his own dinner out and carry on eating mine (I've practised the aforementioned on several occasions with both husbands .. and, no my cooking isn't that bad lol ! ) What a bully .. I would never stand for that insensitivity. I do hope you're ok now though ....

Most veg has to be on the crunchy side now my dear mum always cooked all veg until it was mush, probably why I never liked veg in my younger days. Now it has the flavour it should have because it’s not boiled to mush. Perhaps that’s the problem your husband may have been brought up with mushy veg. My friends partner would never eat crunchy veg he was used to his mum cooking it for a good 30 minutes.

I hate crunchy veg. Prefer mine properly cooked. ie soft.

Tenderstem broccoli is inclined to be anything but tender. Did you microwave it? Never works.

OP hasn't come back, are you okay, have we frightened you off?

I once, in a state of post natal hormones, blew my top when having cooked mashed potatoes for the family, a certain member of them dared to say he didn't want them. I hurled the pan with full force into the sink and stormed out of the house.

When I came back an hour later they were as meek as lambs, and no one has criticised what I have provided since!

"The Help" cake sounds as if it should sort things out. Good idea!