SIL not accepting of my gay GD

When I read SIL I thought at first that this meant son-in-law, ie your DGD's father, but this is her aunt by marriage.
Unless they have been extremely close then I would not worry about this unduly and in fact your sister-in-law may become more enlightened and accepting than you think.

We were all very worried about a young friend whom we knew was gay because his father was extremely homophobic before his son told him - he is now accepting and happy for his son who has found a lovely partner.

Daddima

I don't really understand why this has to be declared.
Did the straight members of the family make similar announcements?
She's gay, so what?

But if you fear the volcano which is sil, before any unveiling of the abomination, give sil a text (the old-fashioned Bible kind) and ask her if she agrees wholeheartedly with it.
It says:
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

One could, in all sincerity add 'gay or straight' and not alter the spirit of Galatians 3:28

Sadly, your lovely girl is going to come across many bigots, probably far more hurtful than your sil. If she has your support and that of the rainbow community, she will eventually learn to cope. It's not an easy life but it can be a very happy one.

Bravo, Hamalasyno, to you and GD's parents for accepting her sexual orientation so easily. I'm glad she felt comfortable enough to come out to all of you. I agree with PPs (previous posters) that the opinion of a great aunt probably won't mean much to her, especially one who is only related by marriage.

Since you and DB (dear brother) are "very close," though, I imagine that you see/talk to him and SIL often. If so, perhaps you're worried about what she might say to you about GD. I agree w/ the advice to express your love and support for GD and then change the subject. If SIL persists, perhaps let her know her comments are hurtful, as one PP suggested, and, again, and ask her not to bring the issue up anymore. Hopefully, that will be enough to bring the problem, if there is one, to an end.

But maybe you're afraid that she'll make cruel comments to/in front of GD or her parents? Hopefully, she'll know better. But if she does make harsh remarks and you're there, once again, I think you should express your support for GD. Beyond that, no doubt, GD and/or her parents can speak for themselves. If it becomes intolerable, you may have to accept that they cut her out of their lives. But I hope it doesn't come to that.

Perhaps, however, SIL is only concerned with the sexual orientation of her own DC and GC, and won't comment on your GD's sexuality. Also, hopefully, DB will prevail upon her to hold her tongue about homosexuality around you and yours.

But if he doesn't, or if SIL becomes intolerable regardless, you, yourself, may have to push her away and continue your relationship w/ DB separately, if that's possible. Surely, you don't like that idea, and I don't blame you. But your "job" here, IMO, is to support GD, even if you, eventually, have to distance SIL. Once more, of course, I hope it doesn't come to that and SIL behaves reasonably and kindly.

Either way, please let us know how it goes.

Sodapop, so deeply sorry about the behavior of your MGPs, aunt and cousin! It was probably more their loss than yours.

Daddima - LOL! Perfect!

MGP s A and C were all D’ s SL
Oh my word how I hate alphabet soup and we moan about the youngsters and text talk, being lazy ?YHAL

Thanks Starlady my adoptive parents were so supportive they didn't let it impact on my life too much. Just goes to show that down the years there have always been people who are prejudiced over one group or another.

Daddima, what a great letter..... Have saved this for future reference. Note it is all Levicticus that has these dire warnings. Think time has come for this to be excluded from modern bibles.

To every one of you who wrote to support me in my situation, you will never know how much you have helped me. I think all of us can agree that Daddima hit the nail on the head! I want to add at this point, that I realize some of you were confused with my message. Will clarify: my brother and his wife have 4 daughters, 8 grandchildren, and 4 greats. Hubby and I have 3 children, and 5 grandchildren. Our 18 y.o. Granddaughter is the oldest. My brother is my only sibling. Sister-in-law has always quoted the Bible, and has never hesitated to criticize my Mother (passed in 2005), along with criticizing my brother for things that occurred over 50 years ago. I’ve really had to hold my tongue many times, but with this I will not. I am ready now though thanks to all of you. I will keep you posted!

Just occurred to me that I failed to mention something. SIL has the beginnings of dementia, and I have to give DB credit for his patience and support. She repeats herself constantly and he never criticizes. He is (as my father was), the most gentle man I have ever known.

Well, if great aunty decides to express her bigotry, then you can cheerfully remind her no one asked for her approval.

I have to wonder why he OP found it necessary to prefix the statement about her GD being gay, with the descriptions, 'beautiful, intelligent'.
Her perceived intellect and looks have nothing to do with sexual orientation or are they (supposedly) mitigating factors.

Perhaps the OP was worried about some of the responses she might receive Gabriella and looking at your one and only post on this thread, maybe she was right.