Strange male friend from the past

Ugh!
Tell him to phone a sex chat line if he wants someone to engage with him on that subject.
£1.50 a minute.

He's just a predatory male who thinks he has found someone vulnerable who he may be able to use.

I'd give him a wide berth if I were you. You may be lacking affection from your OH but I don't think this weirdo has friendship on his mind. Tell him to push off. You don't need him.

Yep run for the hills! I would have very strong words with your sister and tell her never to give your number to anybody without asking you first.

No ifs, no buts, just stop all contact immediately, block him on your phone, bar him on any other media and return any post unopened.

To do anything else shows that you rather like the attention and want it to continue.

Then talk to your husband and books ome sessions with relate. The problem in your life is there.

You deserve better than this man ( any woman does.)
I second Monica’s advice.

The OP's post set off warning bells in my head, I'd drop him like a hot potato, nothing about him sounds right, the fact that he gets cross is a big warning sign.

I just reread OP and this has been going on for 18 months.

18 months? I am sorry but this suggests that OP is rather enjoying it and looking to us for what? Approval? Envy?

Whatever the problems with her marriage any person with even a hint of common sense would have ended this relationship - because this is what it is - as soon as it became clearly sexual and creepy, which was within a month or so of it starting.

I can understand that you found the attention pleasant at first, but this sounds like a case of 'out of the frying pan, into the fire'. If you continue you may well end up in a more unhappy situation than you are already in.

It was the 18 months’ duration that made me wonder whether OP was rather enjoying it, M0nica - I find that worrying, but perhaps it shows how easily girls are sucked into grooming.
I would have thought OP at her age would have shown more judgement.

I think you have 100% same advice on here Rare for everyone to be in agreement Run run and don’t look back
He’s getting off on your calls that’s why it’s gone on for 18months
Block him move on try harder with the groups around you

At least some of the people in your class are probably looking for company as well so be brave and suggest meeting up, before or after a meeting, to the group as a whole and see what reaction you get.

This man is a weird creepy manipulator but I think you know that.

What do you mean some people in your class ?

Class in school MawB ( in the OP.)

"A long time ago" and OP implies she now lives in a different country he keeps trying to get me to move back to my home country where he lives

I don’t understand your post at all sussexborn why does she want to meet up with her class where does that come into the scenario she hasn’t said anything about meeting others from her class am I reading a different original post

Hi Monica no am not looking for your approval or envy and I can see why you think 18 months is worrying but it’s not all the time , it happens in like episodes if I can say , and yes I do see that I need to stop it now !!

Hello kiki2

I'm afraid I am of a very perverse mind and I also have a smidgen of experience in trying to get rid of persistent idiots.
Blocking the phone calls doesn't always work but it's good advice with which I agree.
The only trouble is, he knows where you are and he has you on a hook and is probably reluctant to let you go. How will he know your phone isn't just playing up?

If you talk again, this is what I'd do did

Tell him you had to see your doctor secretly because you're having a great deal of trouble 'down there' and your doctor has made an appointment for you at an STD clinic.
Of course you've had no diagnosis yet and haven't told your husband......

If he is self and sex obsessed, you will no longer appeal to him as a victim. Then block him.

MOnica, why would you approve or be envious of creepy phone calls? Blimey!

I don't think you have told us everything either!!

But PLEASE don't.

Weird this cut contact.

I also feel you should cut contact. He sounds odd.

I guess your sister shouldn't have given him your number in the first place but, if she knew that you were at school together, she may have thought it was not a bad thing to do. Hindsight can be a wonderful thing!

I'm sure he didn't tell kiki's sister he wanted to "chance his arm" as my mum used to say.
I'm not entirely sure it's his arm that's the problem though.

Totally block him! What a creepy ar......! Why would anyone not realise this guy is beyond weird verging on suspicious!

Yep, block him Kiki

Bradfordlass. People can be odd and very perverse and while I am not necessarily suggesting that the OP is in her turn, so to speak, getting off on this relationship by telling others about it and perhaps hoping some people will be envious of it and her, it is, nevertheless, quite possible that some people might react like this and, as I said keeping this very creepy relationship going for 18 months, does suggest that this could be a possibility

Since then the OP has posted that this is not the case and I accept that.

kiki2 You ask whether you should return to your country of origin to be with him?

Just suggest it to him or go and appear on his doorstep. You will not be able to see him for dust and small stones. He is using you for free telephone sex. He has chosen you just because you are married and living in another country so, he thinks, never going to come back home and confront him.

The fact that you say this relationship is episodic,to me confirms, that you are merely being used for free telephone sex.

End this communication now. Any idea that you have a relationship is a delusion. He contacts you as and when he wants cheap relief.