DH and I have our 5 bedroomed Victorian terrace house on the market. Plans are that we will move to be near our youngest grandchildren, whilst still keeping a static caravan down here to use when visiting other family , and also attending the occassional meeting.
DH says he is happy with the plan
All fine. I have managed to get most of the rooms in a fit enough state for viewing, except the spare room commonly called 'dads room'
Now, I know that he is a hoarder, and OCD about many things. For example, he will take 3 hours to do the rubbish/recycling every Monday night because he has to read everything put for recycling, go through the bins from the various rooms (though not the kitchen) in case there is something there that could be recycled/he hasn't read/he thinks I shouldn't throw away
I've learnt to live with this, BUT, his almost physical pain at being asked to declutter his things is just beyond me.
I must explain that for over 20 years of our marriage he lived away during the week due to work, so very much became even more a creature of habit. He is also 79, so has really become set in his ways.
In 'his' room, and newly discovered by me when I ventured into the loft, are boxes and boxes of letters, papers, magazines etc that are years old.
He also carefully saves every single receipt---yes even from food shopping, and when his wallet is overflowing with them, carefully stores them in plastic money bags, dated, and kept in a drawer.
I am becoming somewhat frustrated, and increasingly resentful that I am sorting my things out, giving many things away, and just generally decluttering.
He just won't and I am resentful that he will take most of his 'stuff' with him to our new, smaller house, and that it will just be full of all this 'stuff' and will never be a comfortable, tidy house for our later years.
I don't think I can face this
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!