Hi Joyfulnanna
How many times do you thing before eating something or going to sleep? Not much right?
Then why so many thought before having sex with any one you want to?
Here is the reason - Sex has been the most powerful control tool used since centuries - through religion primarily, institutions like the military which is why even the very thought of sex creates guilt feelings and guilt complexes in the minds and hearts of many thousands
Marriages are not made in heaven, nor are the relationships we have on Earth either.
Further, there is only one life - this life that you will live, only nice!
You can either make yourself miserable by living up to other people's standards or live happily doing what makes you feel satisfied and happy.
There is just these things you will need to understand -
1. come clean of the past before you start something new because the past has a way of coming back when you least expect or want it and messes up life big time. In simple words, break clean with things you no longer want to hold on to
2. 4 things are very basic to being alive - sleep, food, sex and though - without any one of the 4, anyone - human, animals, birds get unbalanced, disoriented unless you want to become celibate or enter monkhood.
3. Think before you leap - The universe works on laws one of which is the law of cause and effect. Think before you get into that one-night swing on the consequences and ramifications it may have. We live in societies which have their own rules and will never leave a chance to drive anyone underground with vile looks and remarks, comments without knowing what is going on inside you
All said and done – the life and therefore the choice is yours, but the consequences are not yours to do want you want to do
Cheers