Affair

You mustn't feel that you will have failed if you choose to leave. Sometimes one has no choice. As long as you have tried to talk to your husband and tell him how unhappy you are, apart from taking him to a counsellor to address his mental health issues there is little more you can do. I have suffered from depression and anxiety myself over the years and could not have coped without some medical help. If you break a bone, you get it fixed! this is no different in many ways, just more complex.

I can't say that I think it would be wrong, but the man you are suggesting does not really sound the best if he has several affairs before
Myself I am 60 not had sex for 15 years!!! Husband has no interest in that or anything other than television and eating. I know if I met someone and we really got on one thing may lead to another. I would not blame myself at all. As to why don't we leave these husbands, that's easier said than done. I'm sure we should really but how, where??

Ydoc. Ditto me to all your comments except I am 64 and it's 19 years. I think it has grown over!! LOL

Joyfulnanna I am so pleased you made the decision you have. I just hope that the counselling etc will help your relationship and things get better.

Hiya I appreciate your dialema but have you considered that ending this unsuccessful relationship may actually help your partner?
Sometimes its the big changes in life, however undesirable at the time, that help us find the way.
Good luck

You've been given some sound advice here, I do hope it has helped.
I actually think that the companionship of a long term partner is a really beautiful thing and that the media has led us to believe that if we're not all banging away into our nineties and beyond we must be unfulfilled!
Basically unless you are feeling very neglected or wanting different things or feel the need for a sexual relationship and not getting it then 'its all good in the hood' and this it the time to enjoy each others company and share the sunsets.

The sunsets are the least of the problem. Perhaps people think that growing older while sitting holding hands will solve these sort of issues. No, it's affirmative action and concerted effort.

Mmmm - could finish up in a sticky mess. Listen to Lisagran.

As someone who has been cheated on, please don’t do this until you have separated from your current partner. Unless you have discussed it with him and he is happy for you to have an affair. Affairs are absolutely devastating to the betrayed partner and take years to get over. If your partner is already depressed this could push him over the edge. If you are that unhappy with him you should leave before starting a new relationship.

no ain't wrong

Would you be happy if the boot was on the other foot ?.
I doubt it somehow.
But if your serious tell your husband.

Dont tell him.