Yes a pretty bold statement isn't it.
Let me explain.
I'm 66 years old a female living alone for the past 15 or more years since my son and daughter left to live their own lives. I enjoy my own company and to be honest and I was a bit relieved that I had the house all to myself and could do anything I pleased without criticism. BLISS!
Over the years due to my Arthritis in my knees and other medical problems, taking medication and isolating myself due to depression I have become a 'selfish' and cold woman. Feeling sorry for myself because I had a total knee replacement and had to look after myself because my children or family didn't visit me or tried to help me in my need. I blame myself for not being more involved in their lives, but being diagnosed with Severe Depression I just wanted to stay in bed everyday and forget everything.
I have just become a Grandmother again and although I'm over the moon about it I just cannot push myself to be close to the baby because I have issues with my son and when I visited them I didn't feel welcome I felt that I was in some way intruding.
I feel very guilty and sorry for not making an effort in the past with my family because of my issues and I feel that they are snubbing me which honestly I can't blame them.
All my family live within a 20 mile radius and I never hear or see any of them unless I call them first but it still makes no difference because we only talk pleasantry's and I still feel left out.
I blame myself for not being assertive and locking myself off from everybody so I'm not moaning I'm just saying how it is. I'm not looking for sympathy I just need to inform other's that Karma is real and you get back what you put in.
I hate myself so how can I expect anyone to love me?
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