Compete with his 'Ideal Woman" that - GET OUT or get him out.
Make sure whatever you do you take care of yourself ALWAYS. Get your finances, paperwork and safe place to live sorted then GET Away from this TOXIC piece of sh*t.
Please DO NOT fall for all his tales of Woe and promises to change.
Oh he'll "Say" what you want to "Hear" but what I read in your post was he already said what you want to hear then has Done just what he wanted to AGAIN.
How many Agains do you want in your life ???
One of my mantras is "What do you want me to believe ? What you Say? or What you Do?"
"There's no harm in it" easy to say but it's not true.
It's harming you, it damages the girls involved, it is De-humanising him, it's distorting his view of human beings - including your children.
And because he can tell himself (and you) the lies that "there's no harm in it", "others do it", "I'm not as bad as ..." he can carry on. Really, just *** really.
The greats Lies we ever tell are the Lies we tell ourselves. He's change (lie to self), it's not so bad (lie to self) things could be worse (lie to self).
Anyway Well Done for not buying into his world view that he's an OK human being.
Well Done for being appalled by what he is engaging in. I wish you all the very best of outcomes.
Oh and just a thought, if he gets any porn on any of his works devises he could and should be sacked. If that happened to him where would it leave you and what would you do?
I ask you to consider this because a couple of months ago DD2 had to "Instantly Dismiss" a very high earner who works away a lot due to Porn being found on his laptop. He was flown back to the UK, called into the office and was gone in 10 mins.
Scottish island ferries debacle. 🏴