Husband talking to new love in the house while I am there?

Yes you are being overly sensitive but maybe it will give you the kick you need to stop fannying about and sort yourselves out. After being estranged for 10 years you should be far more advanced with moving on and out. I've no clue why you are still house sharing because it's not working for you is it?

I can understand this probably makes you feel sad. But really your husband is just moving on and living his life. You need to do the same. You need to sell asap.

I had this problem and even though it hurts like hell, you have to deal with it and believe me you will get through , always believe in Karma ! ?

We were in the same situation but I can honestly say it didnt bother me, one year his girlfriend joined the family christmas.

I think it is because I am really over our relationship ending, enough that we are genuine friends.

I think that maybe you are not over him,nothing about him would bother you if you were.

Hoping it will be easier when you are living separately.

But yorkshirelsss why does she need karma he hasn’t actually done anything wrong they ve been estranged for ten flipping years Has he got to be celibate for the rest of his life it’s not just his fault they re still sharing living accommodation it takes two to tango

helleborus are you still in love with your almost ex husband and have you been staying in his life hoping to get back together or if it’s a financial thing then you have to accept that you’re two separate units and like roommates you can both have other partners if you wish

@bluebelle I don’t recall saying he had done anything wrong ! Everyone needs a little karma in their lives ?

What alternative does he have? Sit in the garden shed or in the car?

It is reasonable to ask him perhaps to only use one particular room to phone, (and I do not mean kitchen or loo) where you cannot hear, and he seemed to be willing to do that when you ask. I am sorry, this is just one of the other minor inconveniences that go with separation and divorce.

I can’t see he has a choice. Besides your separated to be divorced!
If it were me I’d get on my mobile phone and ‘pretend’ to be talking with a man...I’d be talking...laughing,etc....see what happens then x

Good morning all. I haven’t posted in a very long time, but I have an issue that I just cannot shake off, and would like some sage opinions/advice.

I split from my ex July 2018 after 7 years, the relationship wasn’t good in my opinion. I was never really attracted to him, but thought it would ‘grow’ as we had a lot in common, however, his personality was a difficult one, and therefore that ‘growth’ never happened. I caught him out in several lies (mostly about women) he was very secretive and protective of his phone. Eventually I could not continue any longer, and ended the relationship. He Pursued me trying to get me back/change my mind, this time I had the resolve to stick to it, and a weight lifted off me immediately, to this day I am glad with my decision, and I never intended any further friendship with him.

Now to my ‘issue’. He has been in a relationship for over a year, so well established I’d say. He ‘keeps in touch’ every so often by a text, sends me birthday/Christmas cards. And for Valentine’s Day sent me a homemade CD of my favourite band! He sends my adult children cards (they tolerated him, no relationship) and the most recent text about our welfare during the COVID lockdown, he mentions meeting up with me and my kids after

I don’t understand any of this behaviour, I doubt his girlfriend knows any of this and sure she would be displeased if she did?!

Why is he doing these things if he is in a relationship? Controlling me? Does he feel sorry for me? It’s causing me to think about him more than the odd fleeting moment.

Would appreciate some opinions here.

I think you d be better starting a new thread or asking HQ to start it for you with this post People might get muddled with the different stories