Should a Man put his women first ?

Yes Dinahmo I’m in his will just 10%.
Redhead56 no I drive myself, he’s the same age as me. My daughter moved as she couldn’t afford a larger property near me so it was purely financial.
Thankyou I will contact Women’s Aid I have never heard of them I was thinking of seeing a solicitor to see what my rights are.

Is the house jointly owned? Other than that I wouldn't think you are entitled to anything as you are not married.

You ve got a big old footprint on your forehead
He’s controlling abusive and sounds quite ‘lovingly’ nasty
Whose idea was it to retire at 50 , I got the best job ever at 53 and worked at it for 16 years
Can you stay with your daughter to get away
Emotional abuse is very real as is financial abuse and keeping you from your family is an old trick to keep you reliant on him
Women’s Aid will give you feee advice and support

An American friend of mine many years ago said "There are more prostitutes with wedding rings on than there are prostitutes".
You may not actually be married but think about it .....

you sound quite isolated. the phrases you use.
unfortunately i doubt you are entitled to anything financially.
that why he didn't want to get married. you have been naive.
anyway, that;s the past. onwards and upwards.
fill up the car with petrol he's paid for, grab your essential docs and go stay with your daughter.
you can claim UC and help look after GC.
you could also apply for social housing, tell them you are fleeing domestic abuse. ring 101 police and women's aid.
things will get better, as you put distance between you and your erstwhile keeper.
good luck.

Some great advice here. I was in a coercive controlling relationship & didn't even realise! - partly due a controlling mother before. There were always 'consequences' if I dared to think for.myself.
The final straw was when he took a loan out in joint names without telling me - against my house - which he'd weedled his way into the mortgage.
I stayed in the house and was surprised how easily I managed.to pay the bills.
Look up 'Gas-lighting' & see if you see the signs.
Of course he's loving that's part of the control.
Best wishes & Good luck

To those who think the OP is entitled to money if she leaves him - you are wrong. If you are married you have rights, if you are not married you have no rights.
I wish everybody in a "partner" relationship was made to read up on the subject.
OP Time to decide. Do you want him to marry you to give you security or would you be happier without him? He is unlikely to change. I know what I would choose.