How many times have you been in love?

Just once since July 1968.
Thankfully still together.

I thought I was in love several times until I met my husband in 1964, then I knew what it really was to be in love and to be loved. Thankfully we both still feel the same.

Three or four times. The last time for almost 57 years, and counting!

Polarbear2

Not sure I ever have. Not if it’s ‘as advertised’ ?. I feel contentment and affection but can’t say I’ve ever been in love. I’m not sure I’ve ever been ‘loved’ in the romantic way either. Perhaps that’s why.

Thank you for this...I've often felt the same and wondered if I was odd or perhaps undeserving of that kind of love!

I've cared deeply for partners but never that 'rush".

Twice, married second but he died after 8 years of marriage, 1976, engraved on his head stone ‘I shall not look upon his like
again’, I was right

Twice. First one sent me a very unexpected Dear John. So painful. Seven years later someone managed to break into the coat of armour I had built around myself and we had thirty very happy years together. Such is life (and death).

I have been in love twice. Once with a slightly older man who I met when I was 20.I went out with him for over 16 years. He never wanted marriage or children & he went out with other women when I knew him. Marriage would not have worked between us. Second, to the man I married although our relationship now is more like a brother & sister one.

Ah that’s lovely

Twice. Second time to DH. We have been happily married for over 50 years.

A few years ago I heard that No 1 had died and I read his obituary. Until the end of his life he remained the person I had first fallen in love with. Like me he clearly had a happy marriage.

Lust loads of times, love is something different. It takes time to grow and shows itself in unexpected ways. So for me, just the once to my present DH. He does drive me mad at times, we are complete opposites, the sex was never fantastic even in the early days but we really care for each other and I trust him completely. He can be a bit mean about the things that really don't matter but has complete generosity about the things that do and he is so kind.

How I envy those of you who are still madly in love with the one you married decades ago.

JackyB your port really resonated with me.

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Still loving is not the same as being still madly in love,
that first fine careless rapture of love, like the first agonies of grief they cannot last forever. What remains is a full and feeling emotion. Living always on cloud 9 would be too exhausting.

Once, fell for a boyfriend really bad. I was a fair bit younger than him though and very naive and quiet, not much experience. We split up just before he went on a lads holiday to Spain. Much later we met again and I broke off my engagement to another for him but parents were not happy.
Became re-engaged then married. Needless to say, marriage didn’t work out because it was on the rebound. Took me years to get over the man I feel in love with.

Fell not feel!

Twice. First was my first boyfriend of 7 years but he played away and once I found out I ended it. Broke my heart.

First husband. Eventually i realised I was trying to love him and tried so for 24 years. I should have listened to my inner self just before the wedding.

Two years later at 48 I met the love of my life and we married 7 years later. Together 24 years and married 17 happy years.

Jackyb I know where you’re coming from with your first paragraph. Saying that my DH is a good man who would do anything for me but on hindsight it was a rebound relationship.
I’d say twice for me and both left me heartbroken. The first one I would call the love of my life. I think of him often and if he came back into my life again well who knows. I hear of couples reuniting in later life and wonder what if?
The second person was a cheeky charmer but again it wasn’t to be. At least with this one I got over it and a few months later met DH.

Is this question about inside or outside marriage??

M0nica

Still loving is not the same as being still madly in love,
that first fine careless rapture of love, like the first agonies of grief they cannot last forever. What remains is a full and feeling emotion. Living always on cloud 9 would be too exhausting.

It certainly would...especially in our 70’s.

Divorced,died,loved,cried.

Just once

Just once when at school. More off than on for a few years then realised it was right for each of us. Got married 7 years after we first met and still together 50 years in a few years time.
I couldn't imagine being with anyone else just wouldn't have it in me to adjust to someone else.

Can someone be married but in love with another? Asking for a friend.

I did fall in love twice, married the second and was desperate when marriage failed, however it wasn't until a few years later that I met the love of my life, we both felt the same from that first meeting, he was my sole mate. There could never be anyone else for me now as it would be second best, I realised that what I felt before was as nothing compared to real love. Perhaps its better not to love too much, to have companionship, because it gets lonely, but somehow you can't compromise and settle for second best. He would not have wanted me to stay on my own, he told he that because he worried how I would cope, but I know no one else would ever put me first as he did and that I could trust as I did him.