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Feeling hurt and saddened

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Frogsinmygarden Tue 13-Apr-21 11:02:58

My husband recently called someone on TV a derogatory not very nice name which has upset me greatly. Why? Because the person on TV has a similar illness to me. It just came out of his mouth. Without thinking. It was in relation to his (TV persons) illness and how it affects him. I was shocked and upset at the word he used because it made me question if my husband sees me like this too? When I questioned him about it he immediately backtracked and said I have twisted his meaning! I don’t see how I could have. It’s left me feeling bewildered and questioning how he sees me. We’re not speaking at the moment because he thinks I’ve overreacted. I can’t un-hear what I heard. I feel like something has changed between us. ?

Frogsinmygarden Thu 15-Apr-21 14:34:56

Thanks everyone. I have had a heartfelt apology from my husband for the way he made me feel. And no, I don’t feel like I have to apologise for things all the time. I just wanted to end the ‘silence’ and that was one way to do that. I really don’t think that I would have though. Anyway, I do believe that it has been a learning curve and he will think before coming out with anything like that again.