I missed your update 
I hope the carpets are in soon xx
It sounds lovely deedee. Enjoy your holiday with your sister
Good morning all....I'm settling in nicely now. I have started baking again and my sisters, brother, dad, best friend and whoever else fancies dropping in ? come to mine on a Friday for a cuppa and cake and I love it!!! They've requested carrot cake this week ?.
On a practical note I contacted my council about single person 25% discount on council tax and he asked if I'd also applied for Council Tax Reduction (I hadn't because I thought they were the same thing). I applied online and had to send proof of id, national insurance number and benefits summary and all I have to pay is £11 a month. Brill. So if you are on a low income it's definitely worth a try even if you only get a small reduction it all counts. My housing benefit was also sorted and all my rent is being paid apart from £5 per week which I have to pay so another plus. I did find that speaking to the relevant authorities on the phone initially rather than email was really helpful in pointing me in the right direction to what support you can get. Don't struggle pick up the phone and ask. Be brutally honest about your situation.
If anyone is in the same situation I was in and think that they can't afford to leave so have no other option but to stay in a toxic relationship there is help out there if you ask for it. No it's not easy to begin with. Yes you will go through a thousand different emotions. Yes you have a lot of processes, paperwork, phonecalls to deal with but it is so worth all the effort to have peace in your own home where you make all the decisions. You decide who you see, where you go and there is noone waiting to interrogate you about where you went, who you spoke to, when you get back!! You can do it. Speak to friends and family and get their help and support with somewhere safe to stay (I stayed at my daughters but I also pinched my sisters houses when they went on holiday). Don't let anyone tell you you can't do it because you really are stronger than you think ❤
You have a beautiful home, Deedee! It looks so welcoming and cosy.
Well done, you should be proud of yourself. Maybe when you’re more settled you should consider sharing your exerpeince with others going through the same thing, Women’s Aid or something like that. You have such a positive story to tell.
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