Older child sleeping with mum

Shanavine Your replies are so short and clipped it is actually making it very hard to understand quite what the problem is to be honest and that is why posters are asking further questions and wondering if you feel resentful or jealous or whatever. I don't think anyone is trying to be rude or get at you.

In reply to the original question it does not seem normal to me for a 17 year old to be going into sleep with her |Mum, nor does waking up her mum because she is hot.

If it is not a problem for you in your relationship, I suggest you just leave them to it, its their business, and focus on your responsibilities etc for your grandchildren, that you mentioned

Sounds like a teenager I knew, though in that case we were all away for a weekend, self-catering, and in her own words she "made" her mum get up in the morning to toast a muffin for her ?
We used to wonder if they'd realised the cord had been cut... ?

I think it is not "normal" Sharmavine but it is perhaps not something your partner is concerned about.

If it's reassuring and the 17 year old is ok in all other respects I think it's not so bad to be honest.
Maybe nights are particularly difficult for her. I wonder what happens when she stays with her father?

My mother-in-law had this done 2 years ago. She is fully tiled and had new everything. It was about £4,000 I believe.
A local builder organised it all.

*My mother-in-law had this done 2 years ago. She is fully tiled and had new everything. It was about £4,000 I believe.
A local builder organised it all.*

Notspaghetti I have a feeling you meant to post this elsewhere?

I hope it’s not uncomfortable for your mum in law to be fully tiled can she get up and down ok notspaghetti ???

NotSpaghetti

My mother-in-law had this done 2 years ago. She is fully tiled and had new everything. It was about £4,000 I believe.
A local builder organised it all.

I suppose it's one solution, seems a bit extreme though

Madgran Regarding Sharmavine's 'clipped' replies, have you considered the possibility that perhaps English is not his first language? He may be doing the best he can.

Shermvine it sounds like your partners daughter has some severe anxiety. She will need some help to overcome this and probably needs to see someone.

For her sake though, there is nothing wrong with daughters getting in bed with mum at that age if they need comfort and both are happy with that

NotSpaghetti

My mother-in-law had this done 2 years ago. She is fully tiled and had new everything. It was about £4,000 I believe.
A local builder organised it all.

I think this might be an answer for me from another thread. I think we need to get a few more quotes! Thanks.

Just the sleeping together sometimes doesn't strike me as very odd, simply because I had a friend who, even when she was in her late teens, would often sleep in her mum's bed when her dad was working night shifts. She has always been (still is) a very confident, outgoing and grounded person, and in her case, I am 100% certain that it was in no way a sign of anxiety or any other such problem.

That said, that's where the similarity with the OP's SO's daughter ends - waking her parents up in the middle of the night for something trivial, such as being too hot, just wouldn't have happened!

The OP is the mum's partner. I wonder what happened to the teenage daughter's father. Is she insecure about her mum's relationship with another man (or woman?) I hope that she has a normal life and friends outside her home. What she needs is t be a teenager and enjoy life.

Ok! I see I have caused some amusement - I did notice and immediately “reported” myself - but of course nobody is about in GNHQ.
Apologies all.
As you say I was on the wrong thread!
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Typical!

Aldom Madgran Regarding Sharmavine's 'clipped' replies, have you considered the possibility that perhaps English is not his first language? He may be doing the best he can

That is a point! However as he/she said "Rude!" and "Instead I get I am jealous" further up thread I was trying to explain why people were asking more questions etc. to avoid a misunderstanding about the questions etc.