If you wrote down what you look for in a partner, what would it say

It's funny that spiders were mentioned. My OH spent 25 years in the forces but when a large spider ran between us and down behind the cushions, he did not rescue me. He just screamed and did nothing.

I think the taxpayers should ask for their money back!

I remember these words of wisdom:

What a woman needs is a man who will be kind, caring and sensitive to her every mood. She needs a man who will be strong and manly, who will defend her to the death and ensure her physical well-being in every way. A man who is intellectual, clever, enjoys books, plays, music and the finer things in life.

And most of all, what a woman needs is that these three men never meet each other ...

Were I back and looking again, and that is thankfully unlikely. My criteria wouldn't change he, whoever he may be, must be a non-smoker and tidy. The rest would be entirely negotiable, although this time round, I would check the tidiness factor more carefully.

On the other hand, had I rejected DH because he is terminally untidy, what a wonderful life I would have missed and a wonderful companion and love, not to mention the specific children and grandchildren that resulted for our union.

I think it is best to keep an open mind. Remember, if we find the perfect man, he will probably reject you because you do not meet his criteria for the perfect woman (and he would probably be a deasd bore).

Kind, affectionate, supportive, moral, honest, sense of humour, clean, non smoker, intelligent, interesting conversationalist, love of history, a reader. I consider myself lucky my husband has all those qualities. The only areas where we differ, I have no interest in sport, particularly his hobby golf. I also do 99% of the cooking but that's okay because he's a good clearer upper!