eazybee
.... his hoarding tendencies are a real challenge. I prefer a very clutter free environment, in fact its pretty essential to my feeling of well being. DH on the other hand is perfectly happy to live with crapola everywhere and enjoys nothing more than buying more stuff to add to it.
So no compromise? 'I prefer a clutter free environment because it is essential to my well-being'; so that is what you have.
What about his well-being? Perhaps his piles of 'crapola', as you so delightfully call them, are essential to his well-being, giving him a sense of security. Perhaps he actually likes possessions, not a void.
He is not a child and you are not his mother; you are supposedly equal partners.
eazybee unless you are comfortable with chaos - in which case you'd be right at home here - you really have no idea; if you are not comfortable with chaos, it's unlikely that you would last 2 minutes here.
Chaos is when you can no longer see the carpet and your own home becomes a health and safety/trip hazard for poor 25Avalon
While clutterfree would be my ideal environment, its a rarity here, and therein lies the compromise. With a lot of blood, sweat and tears, I managed to get this place like something resembling clutterfree for the recent party, which was all worth it as we all had a lot of fun - and there was even some room for some dancing
No he is not my child, and I am not his mother. Likewise, he is not my master and I am not his servant - though it sometimes feels like it. His 'security' with the chaos, is my oppression.
Apart from the dynamics of the home environment, we get along really well and its an equal and loving partnershp.