GagaJo
Grandmabatty
Hmm, I'm not surprised they are upset then. I think it was far too soon for him and his children. That is not judging you for the relationship at all but this family haven't begun to grieve their loss and dad is moving on. I would let him go.
Yes. I had a friend who did this several months after his wife died. There was a quiet withdrawing of most of the friends he had who were also friends with his wife or with him and his wife as a couple. People that had supported him during and after her death gradually cut off contact with him.
Fortunately, he came to his senses after a couple of months, realised it was far to soon and ended the relatioship. Now, 8 years on, he is engaged to and living with a lovely lady. Much healthier and everyone is very happy for him.
I love the term ‘came to his senses’. If I had ‘come to my senses’ when I met my now partner, I’d be living a very different and lonely life. There’s no right time to begin again - everyone is different, but that doesn’t stop others from sitting in judgement. For some reason even though they have their own partners, their own lives and don’t come home to an empty house every night, they think nothing of condemning others to just that kind of life for the crime of finding happiness again. I lost two very good friends and a family member who couldn’t get on board with the thought of my being with someone else. Sadly I no longer see them - their choice, not mine, but how I chose to live my life after the hell of losing my husband is no one’s business but mine.