No desire and my husband

Like aonk, we both do things that the other enjoys more than the individual, if it brings pleasure to our partner.m
As we age, we all slow down, and don't do the things that we used to.
As a loving couple, we want to give our partners pleasure, not just having it for ourselves.
Remember that men are essentially visual, so let him see you in pretty undies. Let him help to take them off.
Let him see you in all your glory, as no doubt, you have in the past.
His having an attack of "Deserts Disease" may be enjoyable for both of you.
"Look but don't touch" is definitely the instruction here.
Rekindle some of the fun, different times and places .
Be experimental again!
Share time in the bath or shower.
PIV may no longer on the menu, but there is no reason why anything else cannot bring you both pleasure.
He may very well enjoy fondling you when you are lubricated.
You cannot be certain as to where things might lead
You both have hands and mouths so use them to pleasure each other.
The more pleasure that you can give each other, the more you are likely to want more.
Above all, tell each other what you enjoy, in detail, and then practice what you preach.
I hope that you reach a happy conclusion.

CORRECTION
"look but don't touch" is definitely NOT the instruction here

For anyone unsure as to what "Deserts Disease" it is wandering palms

If you've gone off sex these tips will not be welcome!

kircubbin2000

If you've gone off sex these tips will not be welcome!

I've gone off sex but tips are still welcome. Everybody is different.

If you have gone off sex AND it has become extremely painful, and creams/lubrication/ topical oestrogen etc., have not helped, then these tips will not be welcome.

Once you reach this stage, suggesting that you watch porn to 'get you in the mood' is about as useful as telling someone who has become disabled that they should watch the Olympics if they want to regain their mobility!

Have you seen Davina McCall’s documentary about the menopause? It could be lack of testosterone that makes your libido low. Unfortunately many GP’s will not entertain prescribing it to help.

Well, I have read the post from MissLemon and cant understand why anyone would think its not genuine!

My view in it is, I totally understand you MissLemon, the menopause turns our world upside down in alllll manner of ways.

Personally for me, the thought of my husband seeking sexual satisfaction elsewhere, would remain just that, a thought, I would not open THAT can of worms I mean you have a lot of problems as it is, without adding to them and it certainly ( in my view ) add weight to the already heavy weight that is being carried.

Saying all that, I really do not know which road you should go down with this situation, but I'd certainly say not the uneven, dangerous road that will only lead to a mangled mess....

I wish you allll the very very best with this, its evident you want to deal with this by putting it out there for help.

All the best.

Oldnproud

If you have gone off sex AND it has become extremely painful, and creams/lubrication/ topical oestrogen etc., have not helped, then these tips will not be welcome.

Once you reach this stage, suggesting that you watch porn to 'get you in the mood' is about as useful as telling someone who has become disabled that they should watch the Olympics if they want to regain their mobility!

But one day, somebody might come up with something that works. Where there's life, there's hope!

Well said oldnproud. More to life and love etc