95yr old frail stubborn mother

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I don’t understand. Form OPG100 requires only names and addresses.

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Got this time didn't put 100 at the end thanks

Remember it will only tell you if a power of attorney has been registered - which it has to be before it can be used.

I have found vital info but I am not very proud of how I got it. It is the only evidence I have to show what I believe is fraud and financial abuse. You will all have a go at me but needs must when you have to fight for your rights.
Mum is a bad writer and speller but she kept a daily diary last year. It shows just how much this person has moved in on her. Shocking things like She would take it on to administer her Morphine at one time, my mum has bad eyesight but she's no medical professional. She has her post office card and gets money for her. She writes cheques, this my daughter in law said she found out during Lockdown. This the tip of the iceberg. I've doubts about her and this confirms it.
What would you have done?

I would have done exactly what you’ve done in the circumstances and I bet we all would. Was Mum prescribed morphine or was this something the neighbour had to hand?

If Mum is diagnosed as mentally incapable you can apply to the OPG for deputyship and this will enable you to take possession of the card and chequebook and obtain copies of bank statements to enable you to see if any money has been taken. Also to change the locks on the house and take any items of value into your custody. Please liaise with social services and the care home. And share copies of the diary with them. Keep the original safe.

Administration of morphine is what concerns me most in what you’ve discovered, if Mum was compos mentis when writing her diary. If it hadn’t been prescribed for her this is extremely serious. The diary could be excellent evidence of her mental state as well as the grooming.

It was prescribed for her for a short time believe me if it wasn't the police would have been called.

Am I allowed to keep her diary as evidence without her knowledge. I am worried if I put it back she could just throw it out as an old one as she has a new one on her side table blank at the moment. Or the neighbour might read it before she returns home and hides it. You are such a help I got the forms ready to seek LPA I just hope the neighbour hasn't got it but wouldn't be surprised if she has. Can I challenge it if she has.?
You are an mine of information and so helpful.💐

There’s no reason why you shouldn’t take custody of the diary. You are the next of kin and have genuine concerns, of which the diary may be evidence.

If you find the neighbour has been granted power of attorney you can report to the OPG concerns about the neighbour’s unsuitability to act as attorney.

Remember that one of the reasons Harold Shipman was caught out in his fraud against Mrs Grundy was that the "will" was poorly and amateurishly made out in a way that no qualified solicitor would have used. He also was unaware that she owned another house. The fraudulent will was what aroused the suspicions of the family and caused them to raise a ruckus until it was looked into properly. We all know what came next ....

GMS has given you some excellent advice.

Thanks biglouis, that’s kind. Always happy to help a little if I can.

Downloaded OPG filled it in and sent it to them via email. So just have to wait. My husband said something I agree with, if she was a true genuine decent friend when mum told her about the new Will she should have told my mum she didn't want the house and it should go to mums family & that it was wrong what mum had done! But no she's laughing all the way to the bank.
What is rubbing salt into the wound more is mums given her the house plus £10,000 and that is out of what is left after I pay debts, funeral and all other costs. Beggars belief!

I agree GMS has been brilliant I never thought I would get all this support. Last week I felt lost now I have hope and guidance. 😠😡🤬

If she's been given unprescribed Morphine and this person stands to gain from her demise, then you have to go to the police.

In your situation I would be reporting the current attorney to the Office of the Public Guardians at www.gov.uk/report-concern-about-attorney-deputy-guardian

but do not hesitate to make a report to the police if you feel there is any criminal activity, unprescribed drugs being given or anything else underhand.

OandO, if you read the thread you will see that morphine was prescribed and that pita is endeavouring to establish whether an attorney has been appointed. Also you will see that she has been advised how to report concerns if there is an attorney.

Cool.

I have telephoned OPG before and its a lot quicker to just telephone them and then no waiting about for answers.

GSM sorry to pester you I have one question.
If it was proved there was coercion or her mental capacity was in question which invalidated the new Will what would happen then to her assets?

Would her previous Will stand even if it was revoked? Would someone be appointed to protect her home and finances?
She is adamant she is going back home and back to how it was. I have to tread carefully with her.

Thanks for your time.

If the new will is invalid then so is the clause it contains revoking the previous one. It would then be up to the executors under the old will to gather in and protect the assets.

You will only get the will declared invalid by issuing court proceedings as quickly as possible after Mum dies. Speed really is of the essence - hence my advice that you get a solicitor on board now and provide them with all the evidence you have. Then they will be ready. You can’t afford to delay once Mum dies.

It depends on the query OandO.

This sounds so suspicious. Could you put one or two hidden cameras in the house and with your mother on the care home. And certainly make an inventory especially of valuable items.
It might also be worth having a quiet talk with the police, these people may have a past history.

Just spoken to the care home manager to put it in a nutshell they'll be glad to see her go. She is sharp tongued with ones who have slight dementia, she's accused the manager of taking her pills.

She had social services come to see her today before she goes home and she said I don't need anyone I'm my own person. She happy to her her neighbour run round for her but the manager said her neighbour can't be there at her beck and call all day. They said she should have someone come in to take the pressure off the neighbour but no.

They said she's of sound mind but that still doesn't mean she can't be conned!

The neighbour has been ringing the care home twice a day to see how she is, she is obsessed my husband says.

God help me I'm going to see her tomorrow. It will take all my strength not to have a go at her.

Obsessed sounds about right!

Do keep in touch with social services. She has been groomed and coerced, without a doubt. It might also be a good idea to have an informal chat with the police. The more you have on record the better - and please have a solicitor primed so they are able to act quickly.

GSM I have tried to speak to social services today about what was their visit for but they wont tell me anything because of the 2019 'data protection' act. I cannot get anything out of them. I am biding my time till she has got home next week to see if she is in a better mood (ha). Can I force social services to speak to me if I report my fears to them. I don't really trust them. If not it is the police and a solicitor.

Not sure whether this is any help but have a look at this link:-
www.gov.uk/report-abuse-of-older-person

There is the telephone number of a charity called Hourglass which can give you further advice.

Before your mom arrives home next week, can't you go to her house and look for her bank accounts to check whether any large sums of money have been withdrawn?