Rights when in a relationship but not married/living together

The problem is my sister will never back off or not get involved, she is totally smitten with him and would do anything for him.

In which case all that can be said is that she has been warned and all you can do is stand by ready to support her, when the whole thing breaks down.

Can I ask, why didn't your sister tell his children he collapsed and was in hospital?
My thoughts too Violet
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Debbi58

My sister has bern with a man like this for 20 years , she did move in with him a couple of years ago. On the understanding that when he dies, she will need to move out and his adult children will have the house . She's financially independent and has her own house, she rents out. They don't combine money or anything, it seems to suit them both though

The thing about this though, which was my position, is that to be required to immediately move out upon his death, while grieving, would be very hard. A grace period would need to be worked in. 6 months maybe?

Your sister and her bf are not compatible

She should be thinking whether this relationship is good for her and what pros ot brings to her life, short and long term

I agree with Hithere your sister and her friend have totally different expectations of the relationship. Unless they can find some common ground this is not going to work.

Sadly, as she knows,she has no rights and will be entirely dependent on the good will of his children, unless she can persuade him to include her in his will and specify that she can be included in funeral arrangements.

Monica, IMO you've hit the nail on the head there. Exactly right.

I would just add to that, do your best to make sure she keeps her own home and money.

I’m sorry but sadly that’s how it is When my brother died very suddenly he’d been living with his partner for about two years they weren’t married although she said they’d secretly got engaged. She told me that she was going to get all she could (for his sons) I told her that that wouldn’t be possible as our elderly mother with dementia was next of kin and I had power of attorney for my mum, followed by his sons.

She wasn’t happy with this but it’s the law. They lived in a rented house in his name and shortly after his funeral they were all given notice to leave by the landlord, very unpleasant for them all but they weren’t on the tenancy agreement - she had her own house and was able to move back into it.

Keep her own independence he’s not going to change

GagaJo

Been there. My bloke's children did everything they could to get rid of me. I backed right off and now he is older, lonely and sees those children rarely. I feel sorry for him, but am not getting involved (other than a superficial, part-time relationship) again. He should have taken a stand years ago, didn't, and therefore will have to bear the consequences.

Silly old men. They should appreciate a good thing when they see it.

That clears something up for me GagaJo as I read your post that you had 1/3rd of a man! I wondered if he had no legs😄

OP what other posters say, she has no say in anything and is not the next of kin, so won’t be able to make any funeral plans for him in the future or inherit all his goods and money.He could make a will that includes a bequest for her if he wanted to.

Your sister has no rights at all in this situation. Of course his children will inherit. It seems obvious to me this man has made it clear what he wants. Your sister must either accept that or back out of the relationship.