Should I stay or should I go?

Honestly you are so young, I have a dear friend who is in her late 70's and is experiencing a husband with an emotional attachment to someone else, it is humiliating.

The Bible says that that type of thing is an affair. He has broken the marriage vows.
Very sorry for your situation.

He essentially is being unfaithfully to you, isn't he. You are being remarkably understanding about it. I would say walk away, but I realise that can be difficult (although I did it in my 50's).
A friend of mine in a similar situation decided that she could not start a new life alone, so she stayed but moved into the spare bedroom and started to live an independent life in that she only cooked for him if she felt like it, she had holidays with friends, and had days out whenever she felt like it and didn't rush home.
Maybe you could do something similar?

Dipsy10 your husband has treated you despicably he could have looked for help for his impotency as surely there is something that could have been done for him. He thought he found his cure using the webcam and of course that was not a free service for him. Silly man.

I am sorry you chose to put up with it for over 6 years what a sad waste of your time. I would say just like the rest of the posters on here get all documents you need sort out your finances and think carefully what you want to do. If that was me I would have been long gone or he would, you have been betrayed and humiliated by his actions time for a big eye opener and a chance to find some happiness which you certainly have not had from him.

He is cheating on you and maybe draining your finances on another woman

Lawyer now

I doubt that it is even the same person that he used to see on the webcam. It could be anybody.

To me your husband's behaviour is a form of infidelity, and whether you can or should condone it, is not really something I feel able to advise you on.

In your place I would find it hard to decide too, and my list of pros and cons would look like this (I think)

Can we afford to divorce? In financial terms that is?

Do I want to divorce him? Emotionally speaking.

Would I miss him so much that life would be difficult, if I left?

Am I prepared to go on living without sexual fulfilment, because his impotence remains a factor?

Or if not, am I prepared to find a lover and remain with my husband? (Could we both accept this solution?)

Is his impotence really uncurable?

Or is he just not interested in me any more?

I don't know if these points are of any use to you, but if even one helps a little, then that's fine.

Maybe a solution would be to live together as friends

Do you have a spare bedroom?

He has realistically already ended your marriage. How would he feel if all the other things marriage offers that aren't sex were off the table too?

I think you know the answer. My husband has this difficulty and sought medical help. We are happy I can’t imagine how I would be feeling if this happened to me. He’s emotionally having an affair.

I think where I would have a problem with your situation is the fact that he has this 'woman' on line on whom he spends money and says she is a soul mate. We have all seen programmes about people being scammed/taken for a ride financially and he sounds like one of them. I would base my decision about my future taking that into consideration most of all. People cannot always help their disposition later on in life and if they are honest sad they are hurting you, they will find a way around it which is a compromise. What is not fair is that a third party, and a dodgy one at that, is in the picture.