30 year old man in a big age gap relationship

‘The possibility of no biological kids’ suggests to me that he is male.

Schools out for Summer !

FP I think that most people are ‘assuming’ that he’s a wind up merchant

Germanshepherdsmum

‘The possibility of no biological kids’ suggests to me that he is male.

Yup

crazyH

Schools out for Summer !

As an aside, I never assume that wind up merchants are kids.
They have a much wider scope for internet based tomfoolery, and hopefully more imagination.

I usually assume that they are male and 40 plus

Yes, I think it’s a wind up too.

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

Have you got any mates or siblings you can talk things over with ?
You ve been given good advice on here but much better to chew it over with people nearer your own age group

Thank you for coming back MALayhee700 - I expect most of us are similar in age to your parents.

FannyCornforth

crazyH

Schools out for Summer !

As an aside, I never assume that wind up merchants are kids.
They have a much wider scope for internet based tomfoolery, and hopefully more imagination.

I usually assume that they are male and 40 plus

Oh but FannyC remember the happy days of onesies, ShoeZone and plimsolls! 😂😂

Fleurpepper

Why are you all assuming Malayhee is male?

I have a friend who has just married a man 35 years younger than him- they are both male.

Because the title refers to a 30 year old man?
#whatitsaysonthetin

I just wanted to thank everyone for the replies, I probably should have typed more in my post. I'm asking this question on a specific site because I have been harassed on Reddit multiple times, just deleted my account and I'm not engaging there anymore.

I didn't want to sound younger than 30 either, I should have elaborated more on my current relationship other than dating and sex. I'm still in the process of getting to know my girlfriend and people are right, the relationship might not work out, but I'm willing to give it a chance and see where it goes.

I personally want kids myself, but if adoption is on the table, I won't write that off entirely.

I apologize for coming across as immature, I didn't want to type a long opening statement, I tried summarizing things as quickly as possible.

NotSpaghetti

Thank you for coming back MALayhee700 - I expect most of us are similar in age to your parents.

My mother is 49 and my dad is 51

MALayhee700

NotSpaghetti

Thank you for coming back MALayhee700 - I expect most of us are similar in age to your parents.

My mother is 49 and my dad is 51

So possibly the same sort of age as our children!

Hello 👋
Yes, thanks for coming back
I’m the same age as your dad.
When I was 26 I met my husband who was 52

Foxy ah, those were the days…☺️

I think op wants to know how ‘we’ would react if he were our son and he brought a woman home who was the same age as us

Taking the OP at face value.

In the 90s a relative of my now ex was in a relationship with the most lovely and beautiful older Swedish girl who was already a mother - about the same ages as in the OP. He decided with a heavy heart to end the relationship as knew that sometime in the future he did want children but not in the immediate years. He was sad, and she was heartbroken.

He went on the marry in his mid-30s and now has one child.

I think it’s a wind up too

Foxygloves

Fleurpepper

Why are you all assuming Malayhee is male?

I have a friend who has just married a man 35 years younger than him- they are both male.

Because the title refers to a 30 year old man?
#whatitsaysonthetin

That reminds me of the TV program where they said: remember The clues are there
They were mainly hidden but that one in the OP was pretty obvious 😄

Ok take the relationship as it comes and don’t even think of any future after four months ( and I m definitely your granny

You can have two people in their 20s wanting children and none comes along, you can have two people young or old not wanting children and one comes along It’s far, far, far too early to be worrying, you may fall well out of love and will have wasted all that time worrying.
Relax, enjoy each others company, and if it continues and becomes serious, then you can start discussing housing pregnancies and finances

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

My son is 38, his partner is 10 years older than him. They met in the workplace and have been together 5 years now.
My son is not paternal so not having children of his own is not on his agenda.
They are very happy together.

Callistemon21

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

I see I have some skeptics here, but I'm not here to prove anything, just to find a better outlet to communicate with others. Reddit is the worst site on the internet, I can't get anything useful from it and the trolls never cease.

It does suck for older women with younger men, older men aren't burdened with biology and pairing with younger women often isn't a problem for us.

I'm not saying I will follow the same path, I can only really live in the moment. I just know personally I can accept the consequences for dating someone older, because when someone reaches their 60s, it's going to be a relationship most younger people don't want to deal with.

If it’s a 30yo straight male and a 45yo straight female, continue your relationship for a year or two you dont need to get married. If she has never had children pregnancy is unlikely naturally, marriage just complicates the relationship .
Enjoy but don’t rush in.